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*ee-ess-2007
writes:hi there, i think im being pressured into sex!i mean im only young!and i have my periods and dont realy want too do itbut im scared he will brake up with mei have asked him if he would mind if we didnt do it so soon and he went offline! so im stuckand wether i should move onbut i realy love him and he doesnt want our relationship to be public eitheris he using me for sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): If this guy had a shred of respect for you then he would wait. He should know by law he can't have sex with you because you are underaged. I know friends who decied to have sex with their boyfirends and had been dumped straight after, leaving them feeling used, abused and regretting they gave in. Dont let yourself be blinded becuase he ses he loves you and by having sex with it shows you love him.
I was in the same predicament at about 14, I went out with this guy who was 16, about 2 months into the relationship he started asking for sex saying thats what couples do and that I couldnt get pregnant cos i was a virgin. Even thought i said i didn't want to he kept pestering me and saying that it showed i didn't love him. At the end I saw passed him and dumped him. And im glad i did becuase he went out with another 16 year old and he got her pregnant then dumped her. guys like these are losers. Finnish with him before he does.
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reader, bee-ess-2007 +, writes (12 August 2007):
bee-ess-2007 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you to those who commented but he has been on holiday and hasent text back [unlimeted text] i havent spoken to him in a weekand i need to find out about me and himbut i think i wll end it because what you are all saying is making me realise how stupid i am! for loving him thanks ilya...xo
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reader, Rosie B +, writes (11 August 2007):
hiIm 18 and what everyone else has said is true,If he really cared then he wouldnt mind waiting for you,Put it this way, if a friend told you that her boyfriend was putting pressure on her, would you not tell her to leave?
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reader, Blackruby +, writes (11 August 2007):
Probably, any guy that has a problem with you not being ready for sex doesn't respect you and is ultimatly going to hurt you. Let's not forget it is also illegal for you to have sex till your 16 anyway, so don't throw your virginity away. So many people have and have regretted it ever since.
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reader, Wisha +, writes (11 August 2007):
 sex is a massive commitment. your first time should be special. dont feel pressured into having sex when ur not ready it isnt worth it, wait until you find someone who respects the fact that you want to wait. it will mean so much more. dont let this guy put you down, your still young and hes not worth it. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): Sex is a big commitment and if he's not even telling people he's with you then he is probably using you.I started going out with my boyfriend 2 weeks after I turned 15. A week later we had sex - but we both wanted to and we had been very good friends for about 5 months before going out. I don't regret having sex with him - we're still together and I'm 17 now.He's obviously trying to guilt you into sex by going offline if you say 'I don't really think I want to yet'. You've even said you aren't ready yet and he's still trying to make you and if he loved you he'd respect that you want to wait. My boyfriend would of waited if I'd of asked him to.Just think if you finish him, without having sex with him and in a couple of months you will probably find someone who is willing to wait because he loves you so much.I hope I helped. xx
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reader, Reebe +, writes (11 August 2007):
 I hate to say it but I think he might be. He doesn't want people to know your together and if he respected you he would accept that you weren't ready for sex and good for you for not being pressured into it, you should be proud of yourself!
I would forget about this boy and save your feelings and virginity for someone who really cares and respects you.
Good Luck.
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