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writes:I've been livign with my ex husbad for the last 2 yrs. we're good friednds now but no other attraction whatsoever. somehow i feel i cant move on cos he needs me as an emotional support. i love him a lot and i understand him, just that because of his cheating on me on the past i can't possily ever be back with him.i'm quite put off him, sexually, as a matter of fact. this might be 'the stockholm syndrome', where the abused has no choice but like the abuser, but i feel guilty everytime i want to move out.I am a fool ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis man is bugging me now. i'm not saying he's trying to touch base with me, he is truly bugging me and i can see something's wrong with him. he invited me over and over for a drink and i offered excuses as too caught up in long work hours and what not, maybe later. but he just doesn't get it. i think he is on some sort of pills, i now am truly rude to him, like turn my back in the middle of our conversation, give massive body language clues, turn him down, but he still comes down all a smile and expects me to stop everything for him. i feel so bad about it i'm sure there's not enough space in mself to understand him well but for gods sake, whats he got in common with a 27 yrs old woman.!!!!! aaaaaaaaarghhhhhhh
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i noticed, everytime i sleep at a friends or i have a fantastic holiday on my own, he's grumpy and hard to live with. everytime i date someone, he kinda tries to talk me out of that person, saying i deserve better, etc.writtign about this i realise this situation is twisted and i shuld clarify it asap.i think i succumbed to the force of habbit... and you guys are right, i feel i would be happy without seeing him regularly and i know it. just that once i get home and close the door, i can't think properly in this flat, i get back to my old self. but i think i need a good kick up my ___ and get out... thank you very much for your replies.
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reader, willow73 +, writes (11 August 2007):
 Hi there, You really need to think about what you need in your life, not just for now but for the future. If there is no way you will get back with him, then you need to find someone for you that can give you what you need. You say you are good friends with him then shorely he would want you to be happy and if leaving for good is what you need to do then he should understand. I myself would find your situation too much to live with and would move out but it's up to you, but please think of yourself before him he is the one who ruined his chance with you.Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): I know it's hard and he might need you but he should of thought of that before he cheated on you.You need to move on with your life because you deserve to find someone else. Put yourself first as he is doing, he's not allowing you to move on when you need to.I suggest that you start looking for somewhere else to live - once your away from him you'll start to realise it's the best for you. If you move out I'm sure he'll live and to be honest he doesn't deserve your support!
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