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writes:Dear all!!!I'm totally crazy about one guy Ive met sth like 3 months before. although I don't know him very well I think about him almost every day. he lives 250 km away and now even farther since I was obliged to return to my country for a while. every time when we were seeing each other it was wonderful and maybe everything was going too quick, we were kind of obliged because of distance that we have to share. but after that I was feeling kind of whore since he dont write me so much , dont call me and every time I fall into kind of depression and start to hate him, try to forget him try to go out with another guys - just to kill this feeling then after 2 weeks or so he write or email. and then im so exciting and, forgive him immediately and let him treat me like a whore again. I'm really smart and intelligent girl but with him Im becoming so stupid really. I try to not write or call often nighter since I was having to many time experience with annoying guys I don't want to bother anyone and Im too proud for that as well. But all of this destroys me deeply. What am I supposed to do ??? I guess I will never understand English guys as I will never learn British accent. So please write me what am I supposed to do??? sorry for mistakes and thanks for any help Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 If you write to him telling him how you feel you WILL sound desperate as I can imagine your letter. You'll be like putty in his hands and he'll know that! He'll also know that he's got you right where he wants and he will call all the shots. So no, I wouldn't write to him. If you do want to try and reel him in then play hard to get with him. Men like a challenge so don't be so accommodating. Tell him you're busy if he calls to meet up with you, that should make him wonder if there's anyone else on the scene.
Tell yourself he's no good for you and you deserve much better. If he can't take you out places, treat you with respect, send you flowers and keep in touch regularly then he's not worthy of you. I get the impression all he's wanting is a "quick leg over" and is using the fact that you're from another country and not sure of the culture to his advantage.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Eve!!!Wish it could be so easy just get him out of my mind and thoughts!!!but when I try to date another guy it works even worst becasue I think about him anyway so I guess Im not honest to the others and can make them suffer:( Can I write him how I feel about it? cause Ive never told him how bad I feel and as Ive already mentioned I prevent myself from writting or calling as well cause I dont want to be annoying or looks desperate.
God I guess that I will avoid guys for next year because I dont want to be hurts again
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reader, AskEve +, writes (17 June 2007):
You are much keener on him than he is on you. If, after sleeping with him he makes you feel dirty then refrain from just jumping into bed with him next time you meet. Have respect for yourself and don't give your body to men easily. You say he doesn't write or call you much. What does that tell you? He's only interested in you for one thing... SEX!
If I were you I'd forget him, keep yourself busy, even join a dating site if you want to take your mind off him. If you're looking for a long term relationship with love and respect then he's definitely NOT the man for you.
Eve
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