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writes:my bf of a little over a year, finally got rid of his gf of 13 years. she was a tweeker and cheated on him, got pregnant, made him think it was his, found out it wasnt, one week b4 baby turned 5 years old and now is adament on raising her kids. well he gives the now 12 year old more then he gives me. I'm jealous and hurt..... i need money and money is tight, cant afford to pay the bills but he gave the 12 year old $55 so she could go play. left me nothing I'm pissed off. texed him all kinds of stuff (mean stuff) but all true and now hes breaking up with me. just like that.He files her toe nails, gives her anything she asks for no matter what it is or how broke he is, and leaves me nothing. i love him sooo much, but now hes saying its all about the money with me, and its not. why dont he say that to the 12 year old thats not even his? i dont know how 2 fix this... please help?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): well you're a working adult, she's a child, so technically you should not need his money but she does.
However their relationship sounds a bit creepy to me. that would be incentive for me to leave
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Accept it or move on. Id say move on.... to me the naked tub and queer thing is pretty creepy but in his heart that's his daughter. Don't try to go in between them.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 January 2011):
 You are a 41-50 year old woman who's extremely jealous over a 12 year old. If that's their relationship, then so be it. I really don't see anything wrong with it..other than he waits on her hand and foot treating her like a spoiled little princess.
For the last time, you need to MOVE ON. He is now your ex, so you don't have to compete with a 12 year old for attention which you seem to need a lot of. I'm sorry to hear you were deprived in that relationship, but guess what? It's now the past..That means it's time for you to MOVE ON with your life and don't date men who have children. End of story.
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reader, havasu +, writes (10 January 2011):
havasu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoooohhhh yeah lets not forget how the 12 yr. old queefs for her daddy. daddy laughs cuz he thinks its cute and funny and says hey ... her name have u showed me how she queefs?you all know what a queef is dont you? well its a pussy fart. i cant believe i forgot 2 mention that tiny little detail. now what do u think about thier relationship father and (step) daughter? its not normal. yeah and he tucks her in bed every night but not when she has friends over
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reader, havasu +, writes (10 January 2011):
havasu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe favors the 12 yr. old hates the 15 yr. old shes never here cuz hes always yelling at her. tells her no all the time and me no.... but never the 12 yr. old, she always gets what she wants. friends over all weekend, him driving them around buying them mcdonalds everyday. she doesnt have 2 eat dinner like everybody else cuz daddy buys her mcdonalds, and only her.or she gets cereal for dinner.she will scream across the house for daddy.. to come 2 her and see what she wants. shouldnt she go 2 him? and the drink in the tub while she soaks is alittle over board along with filing toe nails, is he her dad or boyfriend? i mean really i wouldnt want my dad filing my toe nails or coming in bathroom while im naked in tub.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 January 2011):
Ha, I honestly don't understand why you want him to fill your toenails, that's what nail salons are for.
I can understand that you don't like seeing him treated like dirt while he treats them like princesses. However, this 12 year is nothing to be jealous over. In fact, I really feel sorry for her because she doesn't know her real father. Does that give her a right to take advantage of your boyfriend? No. But he's the one spoiling her, hence making her a spoiled little girl. Is it necessary to get jealous of him giving her money to play, files her toenails, brings her drinks while she is soaking in the tub or sits next to him in a two seater truck? No.
There's nothing you can do about his relationship with his daughter, that's his business. Either you ignore her, and just go on about your relationship. Or opt out of this relationship because you feel like you're attention deprived.
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reader, havasu +, writes (10 January 2011):
havasu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well i guess i should of mentioned that the girls dont love or respect him. and its not about the money... its about me getting no respect from him him keeping secrets. the girls r only here cuz they know they get whatever they want. they tell him all the time they hate him call him an asshole, tell him to pull the stick out of his ass. yes im a grown woman who hates 2 c the man i love get walkd all over. he never tells the girls no... not ever. he cant pay his bills let alone mine... but he gives the 12 yr. old $55 to play for the day? he files her toe nails, she sits in the middle seat of truck when its only them 2. he brings her something 2 drink when shes in the tub, brings her her towel, he waits on her hand and foot. he dont even file my toe nails.
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reader, Hairbrain +, writes (10 January 2011):
With the way you're describing things, it's no wonder he broke up with you. It's his money and if he wants to give it to his daughter then he can. He's not obligated to pay your bills and he isn't your ATM. You shouldn't be angry you should be embarrassed of how selfish you sound.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 January 2011):
He call her his daughter!..you are nothing but a mere girlfriend. Seriously, you got jealous of him giving his 12 year old daughter money to go play? You're 41-50 year old woman who should have a job and is capable of paying her own bills! If you're having paying them, I suggest you obtain a second job or work out some kind of arrangement with the bill collectors. I doubt $55 is going to cover your bills.
Your main issue is kids, you can't seem to handle a relationship where a guy has baggage..I suggest you move on and find I a single man with no extras so all the attention can be on you.
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Oh my god, your a grown woman! i'm a teenager and I already know that if I had a kid i'd give them the shirt of my back if they needed it. He's raised her as his daughter, so she is. HE LOVES HIS KID. He sounds like a damn decent parent, thank god she's got one. Your a girlfriend of a year, you shouldnt be asking him for money! Your an adult, pay your own bills! Dont be so flipping selfish, she's 12, if he didnt give her anything prehaps she wouldn't have anything.. i'm assuming you dont have kids of your own.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Your selfish butt should move on and leave him alone. Jealous of a 12 year old with a bad mother, smh. He's known her and raised her as his own for 12 years. Who cares if she's not biologically his? He made the choice to treat her as his daughter and that's that. His kid will always come before you.
You're a grown adult and should be able to pay your own bills and look after yourself. Do so.
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