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female
age
36-40,
*cockerham
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together now for nearly 10 months. I love him very much and i know he loves me. But its like it hurts me to love him. I feel so crap when hes not there, and i feel great when were together. I worry that he doesnt like me when hes not with me even though i know thats not true. Also when he goes out with his friends we text each other and he says he is having a good time it makes me feel like i dont matter. Of course i want him to have a good time, i have a good time when im out with my girlie friends. Why do i feel this way? Ive got a good things going for me with him - why cant i just be happy? Please dont make fun of this as i am genuinely hurt and need some advice.Thanks
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reader, Iguana +, writes (3 October 2007):
He texts you when he's out with his mates - that shows how much he loves you surely? Everyone needs time apart from their other half from time to time and it's natural to miss someone when they're not there but just remember that it's only temporary, he will be coming back! :)
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reader, GingerPrinz +, writes (3 October 2007):
IMHO this happens to a rather high percentage of young women in the first year of a relationship, especially if they are very active socially and understand all the pitfalls that "going out with the girls/lads" can bring to a relationship. I'll tell you now that most guys don't like that kind of pressure put on them, since you should be able to get on with your life perfectly normally when we are not in the room/house/city etc. It also reflects badly on your confidence, which is an important part of a relationship, especially at the beginning. An important factor is not to start resenting him for time he doesn't spend with you, and to relax a little and indulge yourself when he's not there if you're feeling particularly blue - have a deep bath, scoff some choccies, get the girls round for Dirty Dancing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): don't worry about it, you feel like that because you miss him and when you go out you will feel exactly the same way he does when he is out.
Love Leah xXx
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