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writes:My boyfriend and i have been dating for one year and 6 months. when we first started talking he used to smoke, but then he said he stopped. after two months of knowing each other we started dating. Recently he has been lying to me here and there about little things. I got very mad. The last time he lied, he told me that he feels that he has been lying to me because he was still smoking, until we were together for eight months. He told me before that he couldn't keep nothing from me, which is why he told me.I'm confused and heart broken. What am i suppose to do? I gave my virginity to this person. I feel very confused and I don't know if I can trust him. Reply to this Question
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 He's lying to protect the RS.
However, if someone has to lie to protect any RS then he's not being honest with himself.
Also, you gave your virginity to him. Strange, I thought you may have lost your virginity to him. So I see you think you are the gift. Not so. The gift is how a relationship lives, breaths, exists and evolves.
If you think you own him through your "giving" him your virginity you should have stipulated that before hand.
Your pain is your control and your fear. Never a good place to be standing if you're standing in love.
Because love never acts like this NEVER !!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Lies are never a good foundation to build a relationship. However he has come clean and owned up about the smoking..I take it you do not approve of the habit or he wouldn't have hidden the fact he was still smoking? Its a hard habit to kick so I guess it was easier for him to lie.Only time will tell if you can trust him again and he deserves a chance, none of us are perfect.If however you feel its a dealbreaker then end itxx
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