A
female
age
30-35,
*pendy
writes:Why are the girls at my workplace so horrible:( i feel upset?i got a new job 3weeks ago. i work with 5 other girls on my department. none of them have made ny attempt to speak to me.all they do is stand there and talk among themselves. and is obvious they're talking about me.they don't do anything. am always on my department alone doing all the work. they all try to tell me what to do and to hurry up.last week i was doing overtime so i got called to help another department. when i came back on my department, one of the girls said is been going around that i had an argument with the manager so i got moved to another department. wtfwhy are they doing this? i like what i do and i dont want to quit but they're really pushing me. no one talks to me. i have to talk to people on other departments:( i dont feel welcomed at all:(i told my manager, but they said if i want to make complaint i have to put it in a letter.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 First of all, do not let them see that they have upset you.
Females in the workplace can be a vicious lot. They remind me of chickens in a henhouse. When you bring a new hen into the coop, the older hens will generally peck on the newest addition to establish the pecking order of who is the strongest and in charge.
Be respectful and do your job well. You are not there to make friends, but be friendly.
I have been in this situation and I thought the women I worked with were the biggest bitches on the planet.
I decided to just do my job really well and I always (and sincerely) told everyone I came in contact with (not just my department) Good Morning, Good Evening, Hello, How is your day going? Etc. Yep, I was little Miss Sunshine. Oh, there were a few days I had to fake it, but I insisted on it. It took weeks for the others to relax.
Keep records (not at work, but maybe a notebook in your bag will do) about what was said, by whom, when and where, and any witnesses. That way if you do need to file a complaint, you have all the facts and not your hurt feelings to refer to.
Stick to the facts, not the feelings.
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