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writes:Over the past few weeks i have met up with loads of old school friends and its got me thinking. They are all married with kids now and im feeling really down. I haven't even got a boyfriend. They all seem so happy and im wondering if ill ever find someone for me. I thought my last guy was the one but he didn't think so. Am feeling so fed up. I just wanna have someone and be happy too Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): i m sure you will find someone... the lucky thing is you are not heart broken.. i thought i would never find someone, all my friends are happy and married too.. then i met the one... but it was tough, too fast, he was infatuated, not loving truely, and he left me.. over 18 months ago.. i still love him and would always do... the difference now is that i am not even looking for anyone, as i donot want to hurt anyone knowing that i still love my ex.. more than anyone.. so at 28 almost 29 i am not oly single but broken hearted... you will find someone, just look for., and be ready.. i wasnt.. and missed my chance... look for and get ready... and you will find the one...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Listen, woman! Don't ever do anything just because you feel like it's the normal thing to do. Just look at all these poor married saps on this site who can't even honor the simple vow of staying faithful to their spouses, let alone showing them that they appreciate them every day. By the time you get married, all of your old school chums will be divorced. Take your time, do as you have been doing, and don't try to plan your life according to someone else's schedule.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): I'm not sure how old you are, but it really doesn't matter so much --- it's not like yesteryear where you had to be married with 5 kids by the age of 25! Now, women are getting married & having babies well into their late 30s (see Sex & the City!!)
I know it's easy to compare - especially when it comes to old school-friends, but don't fall into the "grass is greener" trap. AND keep in mind that there are probably a lot of other school friends that aren't married / with kids who you didn't see!!
If that's what you want in life, then great! You will have it! But, in the meantime, do all the things that these people can't --- travel, have carefree fun, get out & live -write a list of all the things that you would love to do (e.g. travel to Canada, go to the Grand Canyon, backpack across Australia) - and do them!! And when you're ready & Mr Right crosses your path, you'll have no regrets that you settled too soon.
Be happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): I am really sorry to hear that you're unhappy. However, think about the following.
I just broke up with my boyfriend whom I've been with for 2,5 years. We were supposed to marry someday but hey, on Wednesday he just said "I don't love you, you're a reat person, I care for you, but we are not meant to be together". OUCH.
I am 24, almost ALL my friends are married. All my classmates are married. A lot have a second child comming. And here I am, alone with no boyfriend and a broken heart.
But you know, if this happened, it means it was MEANT to happen. All is for the best. I am more than sure that there is someone out there, living and waiting, for US. For people like you and me who are MEANT to meet their destiny when the time is right. Don't give up and think about that special someone that you'll meet one day. Because that was meant to be. :)
Then again, I always say "If everybody starts jumping out of the windows, doesn't mean I am going to follow". Am I right?
So, be strong and think of yourself. Because YOU are the most important person in YOUR life :)
Good luck!
Hugs,
Serpie
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