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writes: I have an awkward little situation...A friend of mine was going through a breakup and to make her feel better I asked her if she'd like to come with me to a ballet show on a specific date. She said "you just have to remind me"...and that was it. This was a month ago. Since then, she's gotten back together with her bf (for all the wrong reasons) and she basically stopped talking to me because she was with him all the time (this isn't the first time) and no longer needed my advice and support. SO the ballet show comes around and I realize she's busy reconnecting with her bf so I just bring my boyfriend along. I thought, no big deal, I didn't arrange anything with her, I didn't cancel on her or give her a ticket. She never asked about it either and I never brought it up again. Well dumb me posted a status on facebook about it and she posted a face ":O..." I have no idea what that means but I feel awkward as hell. If I hurt her feelings, it was COMPLETELY unintentional. I feel like a part of me is taking this too seriously but I should also apologize or I don't know what, I'm just really worried :/ What should I do??
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reader, sweetwine  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 hi please do not make it a big deal.....things hapns in every one's life .if u feel guilty or bad .just call and say sorry and say u dint mean it the way ur frnd took it..........and end off the matter there and start new u dotn feel guilty and ur frnd is free frm weird thoughts......
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Nothing to feel awkward. If you feel this way, it will reflect in your behavior with her and you will unnecessarily end up creating a mountain out of a molehill.
She is the one who has been ignoring you ever since she got back with her Bf, so if anything, SHE should be the one feeling awkward, not you!
You don't have to be a pushover. You haven't done anything wrong at all. And by apologizing to her, you will be needlessly giving her WAYYY too much attention, which she does not deserve.
Just ignore the comment on Facebook. Be cordial with her when you meet her and if she brings this up, just calmly say, "Well you just vanished after reconnecting with your Bf!" That should be enough.
No need for you to feel awkward or worried. Calm down, its all fine.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Hi,
I am going to be honest with you. You are making this a big deal. In my opinion, you should've ask her if she still wanted to come with you. Anyways, it's past and done, but if you feel so bad about it, you should just talk to her. Explain that you really wanted her to come with you, but you just assume that since she got back with the boyfriend, you thought she might be busy, so decide to go with someone else. It's a simple as that....
No need to feel bad, because you didn't do anything wrong. Next time just communicate with your friends, and just don't assume things. I know you had good intensions, didn't want to bother her, and made your own decision.
Good luck
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