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writes:hi everyone, I just need someone to talk to... everything seems to be going wrong at the moment. I have lost so many family members these last few years.. my dad, sister, brother, grandad, cousin, great aunt. Everyone that meant the world to me. I recently passed all my tests for the navy but went in last week for my medical and failed it due to self harming. I only have a couple of friends but my birthday is coming up and none of them will do anything with me so it will be another birthday sitting in with my mum and stepdad watching a movie. My dad's anniversery is coming up on the 19th august it will have been 2 years since he died. I just feel there is nothing worth living for any more. I am at an all time low. I keep having the feeling of self harming again but I dont want to hurt my mum. I'm So In love with my ex but when everything was piling up on me I broke up with him and broke his heart in the process.. he still texts me every so often but I know there's no chance of him ever taking me back and it hurts so much. He was the one good thing I had going for me. sorry for ranting on.
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reader, Timothy81  +, writes (26 July 2009):
I'm so sorry about you losses. I think you're a smart young lady who understands the meaning of life. So please - don't even think about self harming. You won't win. Instead - go on with your life. This "black line" of your life will be over one day and you will look at it as a difficult period of your life through which you survived.
Your ex-boyfriend might be the person who can help you out. He seems to care for you even after the break up. "Life is a garden - dig it" - Joe Dirt. (funny, but true)!
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reader, timbo +, writes (26 July 2009):
Hi, sorry to hear of your troubles. Things will get better with time, really. I recently ended a 3 yr. relationship with a great girl that I still love. Come to find out, I was suffering from ever increasing depression from the death of my 16 mo. old daughter 22 years ago,my family moving far away, dad died, a good friend died, my best friend died. Our relationship started after my last loss. I found I hadn't released my grief and pain enough and led to severe depression which led to me unjustly ending the relationship. I had been hiding my inner pain instead of dealing with it. I didn't know I had depression which has a lot of bad symptoms, til after I ended it. I blamed her for my pain when it was my own doing. I pushed her away badly. My mind made up things which hurt me and her. Incorrect thoughts ultimately hurt myself and the relationship. You need to cry, release the pain, don't try to hide it. Talk to someone about it like this. You will feel better eventually if you adjust the manner of healing. Spend your bday with family, get control of the grief you're feeling. Next years bday should be better. By the way, I don't keep dates of my losses. Instead, I keep thoughts of the good times with lost loved ones. Don't lament on the painful day. Hope this helps, you are special and worth it so don't give up. Don't be sorry, you aren't ranting, asking for help is a good sign. Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): Good evening Finchy. If you need someone to talk to, then a simple answer will not suffice so feel free to PM me.
~Sy.
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