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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I recently realized that I think I only have one friend that cares about me. Nobody else seems to be bothered about me.I had about 4 people I could class as friends but I think, truly think only one of those is actually bothered about me.I write on my friend's Facebook wall, asking her how she was and she hasn't replied, but she write on someone's wall and joined some like groups.One of my other friends will hardy bother with me these days. She doesn't initiate much conversation in text msg's. She will keep the conversation to minimum, when I try to converse with her.I have another friend that lives quite far from me and she did text me the other but we are not close friends. We use to be the best of friends back at school but I've moved from that area code along time ago now.I'm trying to look on the bright side and not let it get me down but I feel unimportant and a bit like their is something wrong with me. It doesn't really feel like people are bothered about me being in their lives.People always tell me I'm a nice person and they have told me I'm fun in the past so i can't see what the problem is with me. I think maybe I'm being a bit deluded, like theirs something I'm missing maybe.I do things were I could meet new people but, it's like everyone already has their own friends. I could go swimming or college for adults twice a week but it's not like I've ever made new friendships through social activities. Even with having Facebook, it hasn't really led to new friendships.
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reader, MilkPudding  +, writes (29 May 2011):
I think you should meet people, physically. My mom used to say:??????, or chinese for if you dont go out, you'll never meet true friends. When you text, or chat across a social networking site, you cant hear the tone or see the expression the person you are chatting with, so the foundation your relationships are built on could be pretty wobbly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011): Two is a company and three is a crowd.
Its healthy to have only one best friend. These days, finding a true friend is like finding a diamond. If one friend cares about you, I think you should be satisfied. Its not necessary that all should care. Also, I think you're trying too hard to get them to care for you. Just be easy. Care for you're self. You'll meet new people as life goes on you may surely find some people who care about you.
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reader, a-g55 +, writes (27 May 2011):
 Build a life for yourself and people will be attracted to be involved.or take the easy way out and get a popular boyfriendyou can build a life by involving yourself in as many activities and meeting people and progressing those meets into isolated meets. over time people will come and go and ppeople will care and lose care. thats life. just make sure your always having fun and dont hang your happyness on the amount of care your friends give you. make yourself feel like your so happy that they are loosing out. make your life better than thiers. get what they havent got. do what they want to do and more often.
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