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writes:I've been with my boyfriend a while now... and today, i was seen with him by some people from my old school (not a big deal is it?) but they just burst out laughing as they walked past us... looking directly at us!At school i was one of the unpopular kids, and very shy so i used to get picked on a lot. I felt really stupid when they started laughing, as though I wasnt good enough to have a boyfriend... but when they'd gone past he said loudly they're just jealous!! but is he right?I feel as though everyone is seeing me as a big joke, but i'm really happy with him so why can't people just accept it without making remarks and such.
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reader, mimisoph3  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 honestly it doesnt matter wat they say..because in the beginning its always the toughest they'll try to bring u down by making fun of u.ur boyfriend stood up for u maybe they are jealous..they probably drove by thinking to themselfs "crap she has a boyfriend and we still dont"
so dont worry about wat people think.if u ignore them and just be happy wit everything they'll soon realize that making fun of u doesnt bring u down and they'll stop laughing.the only way to not let them see u as a big joke is that u have to livee ur own life and dont expect them to bring u down.beacuse thats the biggest weakness :) good luck
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (24 June 2009):
 People are gonna talk regardless.
Saying "Oh they are just jealous" is a defense mechanism a lot of people use to make themselves feel better (either that or they really believe the person or people are jealous), but my concern is, why do you care what these other teenagers think anyways?
They sound immature and pretty soon when they are working at Burger King or MacDonalds and you are far away from them in your good job, you will feel much better.
Be careful about generalization words. These words include (but are not limited too) everyone, everything, etc.
That group of kids is not everyone. Your bf doens't see you as a big joke, and I'm sure that your friends don't either. You can't control people's actions, only your own, so next time something like that happens, try saying something like "Righhhhttt..." you know, just your own way of blowing them off. If you're not comfortable doing it when you're alone with them, try saying your phrase when you are with some friends who would back you up, and then just laugh, and then continue talking about whatever you were talking about. It can be your way of saying, "Like I care what all of you think."
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reader, Wreck +, writes (24 June 2009):
 It doesn't really matter as long as your boy friend is by your side ... what your boy freind said after they laughed should make you proud because it just means your boy freind does not care about those people he likes YOU for who YOU are... not for how people saw you at your old school.. fuck em all... fuck everyone that looks down on you... you should always walk with your head up NO MATTER WHAT....
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