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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Part A.I Dated this guy for a year and a half, and he was everything I had ever dreamed of in a boy my whole life. I lost my virginity to him and truly loved him. Although since I am young no good things ever last and eventually the relationship went sour and I became preoccupied with other things like schoolwork, friends, and other boys. Eventually he cheated on me and broke up with me for one of my really good friends. I blame myself a lot, for ruining what I consider the one good thing that ever happened to me. My friends always say that I can't blame myself. I've never really been able to get over it, its been almost a year since and I still think about him before I go to sleep and still get very emotional. I also feel like because he dated someone else directly after me, I feel like I'm the 'loser'. My friends tell me its normal because he is the only guy who has ever made me feel that way, and I probably will feel that way until another guy makes me feel even better. I'm afraid though, that that may never happen, and that was it. My one chance that I messed up. I hope though it is because I'm still in high school and it difficult to find more than one good guy. He was also older than me, so I never see him anymore since he is in college. Am I wrong, are my friends right?Part Bsince him though, I've made so many friends, and been having so much fun. I would say I am happy. Every weekend there are always big house parties and everyone hooks up with different guys and I NEVER do. After being in a relationship for so long, I feel like i've lost my 'mojo'. I feel like I'm no longer attractive. No guys ever come and dance with me, no guys attempt to hook up with me. I consider myself very down to earth, funny, and fun. I also consider myself good looking and thin. I just don't understand what wrong with me? I do not throw myself at guys, I don't like that. I feel awkward doing that to random cute guys at my school. At the end of the night I always regret it. Even really annoying girls get with guys at parties.... just not me. I like to tell myself it is because I have to much self respect, but lately it has been really getting me down. It makes me self loathe and also think about my Ex. It makes me feel ugly, and unwanted, and also makes me feel as though, no one will ever love me again.
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reader, Thesol  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Hey im about you age, I loved someone and I thought they loved me... Till she cheated on me. I was 'broken hearted' for at least a year, and started to feel unwanted and unattractive, I found great support in my friends etc but still felt empty, I had been with my girlfriend for 2 years then without warning she cheated on me and we broke up.
After a while though I decided that it wasnt that I wasnt attractive etc the main reason was because I hadnt seen the signs ( girls flirting with me etc) I was too worried about myself. I didnt even notice the people around me.
The main way in which I got over my break up was by relying on the support of friends. Its useless forgetting someone you
Loved however instead of remebering them for what they did, remeber them for the good times you had with them. (Dont compare future boyfriends with him. Each guy is UNIQUE! Pretty much ;-))
Now run along you smokin hot gal! ;-) hehe maybe we can exchange email or something
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): First off I know it really hurts to lose someone you love. My advise to you is to remind yourself that your perfect mate is out there and you will meet him when the time is right. Until then, just try to keep having fun. Honestly one of the most attractive things is someone with a smile.
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