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writes:I am in love with this woman, but we are living apart (in different continents) so we talk a lot on the fone about sex and fantasies. We tell each other storys and get off that way. My problem is that I get very excited when I imaging her getting f****d by another guy a (stranger mostly)it makes me very hot thinking that she is being unfaithful to me. I am not planing to tell her my dreams yet, but it bothers me no to know where to draw the line.We both are very mutch in love. How normal is this. Where can I read more about it?? HELP!! Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 Have you met this woman in the flesh?...like for real? Have you spent any time with her on a day to day basis?. If you haven't then I don't think you can even assume that you have a proper relationship with her and having these fantasy thoughts about her having sex with other men is just part of the whole big fantasy 'relationship' you are having with her. That said, lots of people have fantasies about their partner having sex with other people.In some weird way it validates their chosen one as desirable and makes them feel good about being with this person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007): Fantasies are purely that...fantasy, My partner has a similar one and has discussed this with me, it initially made me uncomfortable, but I now understand that this is in no way a reflection of his feelings for me. Please don't feel guilty about the way you feel, only you can decide whether you should tell her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2007): this is normal. since you are living far from each other your imagination is going wild with what would happen.
chaces are if she did actually get of with another man you would be upset but it is just your mind, thinking about sex and what could happen. trust me it happens a lot.
if you want to read up more about it theres a book by a sex therapist called dagmar o'connor called how to make love to the same person fo the rest of your life, and it covers topics such as sexually fantasies. mabye that will help.
good luck i hope you realize why you have these fantasies.
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