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writes: ok - this is daft, as I am a fully grown 32 year old woman but I have a major school girl crush on one of my colleagues - actually I'm kind of his boss. We get on really well and he was really kind to me when I split up with my husband last summer - inviting me out for drinks a couple of times but I was in major turmoil and declined. Since then, I've developed this crush! We had a drunken night at Christmas where I ended up staying over and 48 hours later he told me it couldn't work 'cos he liked me too much and he was crap with women blah blah. We haven't mentioned it since but clearly get on very well, he spends far more time in my office at work than is strictly necessary (up to 2 hours at a time just chatting), etc etc.I really don't know if he just sees me as his mate or what and I kind of feel 'once bitten, twice shy' but at the same time, I want him!!Does he fancy me? What do I do!!!
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reader, Bibbi +, writes (19 May 2006):
 Well, boss and colleage relationships shouldnt really happen! I always say, never bring personal problems into work. You could try talking to him and get to know him. But i'm sorry to say, it's best you didnt go out with him. The colleages might exadurate and think you'll be treating him extra nicely considering he is your boyfriend. Therefore he might lose friends. I think it's best you kept quite for now.
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reader, shania  +, writes (19 May 2006):
 He might be quite shy with women in a sexual sense but if its just a friendship thing...then he probably feels more confident and at ease with himself without the heavy stuff...but i might be just guessing.Its obvious that he enjoys your company but now you have feelings for him and that alters everything.You only have two choices here...the 1st one is you ask him out for a drink and have a heart to heart talk with him,but the risk is losing his friendship because its put him in a awkward position or just leave it and carrying on as before....its a gamble i know but if you want more then friendship then you will have to take the lead.Usually there is little signs to see whether he does fancy you...like staring at you,or touching your hand....act on your instinct...it doesn't usually fail.Good luck.
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