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writes:I'm a 16 year old guy and I think I'm in love with one of my best (female) friends. We've known each other for about 4 years. Our mutual friends have been teasing us since before we even really got talking about how perfect we would be for each other. I did fancy her for a bit when we got talking but we became really close friends, something i didn't have enough of back then, and thus I couldn't act on my feelings. But I don't know if I can stand it any longer. All my friends are telling me I should at least tell her my feelings. But I'm almost sure she'll reject me. One of her friends told me that she says that something could have happened between us a couple of years ago. Neither of us have had any romantic relationships before and I don't want to screw up my close friendship with her. Any advice? Many Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): you def have to say something. The reason is because when I was 17 (I am now 30) I fell for this male friend of a similar age and never said anything for fear of rejection which is normal. But now I wish I had had more fun when Iwas younger and I don't even see that friend anymore so it would have made no difference to my life if he had said no. but if he had said yes i could have had a lot of fun.....maybe try flirting with her see how that goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everybody. Very useful advice, starting to give me more confidence. Still nervous but I'm going to talk to her next time I see her, which won't be for a while (holidays) but I'll write back here with results, in case anyone's interested. Thank you all.
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reader, jabey +, writes (17 June 2007):
try not to be afraid of rejection. You must be strong now. You will loose noghting, you have a friend, and by letting her know you would like more im sure she can only be flattered.
If she agrees good luck may your romance blossom, but if she wishes to remain friends, she is not rejecting you, respect her choice as carry on as before.
If you care about her you will care about her happiness, and if this means she wishes to have you purely as a friend then you will be happy. and if by opening up to her she chooses to take things further then ,a new adventure is about to begin.
You can only win win.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (17 June 2007):
 Simpley tell her how you feel.
I do know its not that simple, but its much worst to not tell her and wish you should have later. Even i you do get rejected (hopefully wont)you will feel better that you at least told her. And alot of people have continuedgreat friendships even after telling the other their feelings and being rejected.
You can move on i she says no.
And if shes says yes, you'll be glad you spoke up.
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