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writes:Okay, so I called it quits with my best friend because always ignorant me whenever he gets a new girlfriend. It's ridiculous. So that was like a month ago and I'm really bummed out cause I miss him, a lot. I don't know what to do, did i do something wrong?! Help!!(P.s. me and him used to be super close, I liked him and I thought he felt the same way about me. So that also. Leaves me wondering, what did I do wrong? Thx.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): I was in a similar situation. Met him 5 years ago when I worked a 3 month contract job. We hit it off right away. I only liked him as a friend, but it didn't take him long to tell me he had feelings for me. I led him on, because I was afraid of losing him all together if he knew I didn't feel that way about him. We hung out all the time outside of work, and I started to consider him my best friend. The entire time, his ex kept trying to get back with him. She would send him daily myspace messages, and call him, but he ignored her. He told her he wanted to be with me.
Our contracts ended, and we moved back home. We hung out a handful of times after that, and had the same great times we had while we lived close to one another. He kept asking me out, but I kept avoiding giving him a straight answer. Then I noticed he started to call me less and less. I decided to call him and ask him if anything was wrong. He told me he had gotten back together with his ex.
I didn't hear from him for about 2 months. Then he called to tell me they broke up again, and we caught up a bit.
Then I met someone. To cut a long story short, I got engaged a year later. A few months after that, I was married. I still heard from my best friend occasionally, but not as much. Shortly after I was married, and completely out of the blue, he decided to go and marry the same ex he'd split up with twice before. I was confused, because after their last breakup, he told me he never wanted to see her again. She made it clear to both him and me that she didn't want the 2 of us to have contact anymore, because she knew how he had felt for me before. Well, he listened to her. He never called me again, and ignored me if I tried to contact him. It hurt, but I got through it.
You did nothing wrong. Some people just put their significant other before anyone or anything else, to the extent where they give up all their friends, even their best friend. For all you know, his girlfriend didn't feel comfortable with him staying in touch with you just as my former best friend's wife didn't.
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