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36-40,
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writes:I am a very sinsecure person, being mid twenties and only in my first realtionship. My relationship is very non-sexual even though we are nearly a year into it, not necessarily through my choice but hers as she is working on some physical and therefore mental sexual problems she has. My question is however...in such a scenario where my gf isn't even comfortable with herself should i be sharing all my worries and concerns? my worries verge on pathetic and i am a huge dweller which i think makes things worse as i bring attention to problems people probably wouldn't even notice normally. Seeing as i have had so many years to dwell i have a huge amount of insecurities and i have been unable to be naked infront of my gf. My main genital issue is my testicles and i have spent literally 11 months being paranoid to the point of depression over the fact they are very small and hang horribly low....very ugly! (yup, i'm that concerned over them -stupid i know)! so when my girlfriend out of the blue in conversation told me how big she thought testicles were meant to be (she's had many previous relationships) and she producved a sort of satsuma size i freaked a little and got all whiny and pathetic and blabbed over and over about all my insecurites including my testes. I even got to the point where i had to show her because i'd made such a big deal and got myself so worried.....sounding pretty weird aren't i !? i know i'd be very dubious about carrying on with me...and know i'm paranoid because she said she probably wouldn't have even noticed my testicles and now i've brought so much attention to them!!!! is it normal to be so in depth about your concerns? (she always is paranoid about her breasts to the point of going on so that comforts me as i think and tell her that i wouldn't change anything and she's perfect) am i gonna scare her away by being so weird and going on on and on (you have to remember that although it is weird, this has been something that has worried me probably for 10 or so years and because we aren't sexually active yet the insecurities have grown and i don't get any positive reinforcement or doubts doused in the relationship.I would appreciate any comments.....be as honest and harsh as needs be :s many thanks!p.s...what is normal size for testicles and what should they look like......
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 September 2009):
I'm not going to answer the question about your testicles, because you are who you are and it doesn't matter. That's it.
Next, I would really suggest talking to a cousellor. You do seem to worry a lot, and maybe a counsellor can find out why.
That's about it really. Good luck.
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