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writes: I mostly treated my girlfreind of 5 years badly but on christmas day i came home to find another man in our house we broke up. 2 days later i called her and said all was forgiven but she would not get back with me she said he treats her right i was gutted so i forgot about her. 5 months later she phoned and asked to meet i met her she said she still loved me and she would finish him but she always put it off that made me angry and shout at her i stayed over one night she let me kiss her all over but not on the lips and she would not sleep with me next day she told me to hide cos her new boyfreind was passing then she told me she will never get back with me because we argue to much. I feel used and useless I still phone her but if i ask to get back together she tells me im stressing her out and to leave her alone. I sit by the phone waiting for her call. freinds say dont call and she will soon come running back i dont know what to do losing her has made me relise how much i love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Its not you, its her, I say forget it, she's not gonna come back, she's not sure who she wants to be with. Its will only get harder for you if you let her do this, and who's to say she wouldn't do it again. Be glad she left and try to find a girl worth treating right. Good Luck!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 She's not going to come 'running back', because she doesn't know what she wants.
Since Christmas, she's had another guy and split from you, then said she'd dump him for you, then let you kiss (her but not sleep with her), then made you hide from her current boyfriend, then said you two argue too much.
Sheesh! Could she be more confused? I don't think so!
Even though you feel like you love her, this woman is not capable of loving you or treating you with any respect, while she doesn't know what she wants. Have you already forgotten that she cheated on you, then cheated on him WITH you?
This is a pattern that your ex is going to play out as long as you let her. Do yourself a big favour and stay away from her. The longer you put up with this terrible behaviour, the longer she'll drag you around in her problematical vortex.
You deserve to be happy, and this woman isn't making you happy. In fact, she's making everyone (herself included) miserable. Give her a wide berth and live your life without her. There are better women than her and you can find one!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Man, it hurts don't it. Well this a classic case of Reaping what you Sowed. Just leave her be for now. This a true fact; Whoever cares the least runs a relationship. That means now that she has someone else you are little to nothing right now but it seems live she does love you she just wants to hold on to you until something better comes along. Don't be so quick to get back with her or be at her every beck and call. You made some mistakes in the relationship, Okay you're human. Just let her know how you feel and live your life. Just like you realized how much she means to you she will do the same the only difference she will be the one reaping what she sowed. No one and I mean no one is beyond reckoning. Stop sitting by the phone get out do things you always wanted to, she will call and when she does you be prepared. If says she wants to get back with you then you tell her that you need time to think it over and thats just what you do THINK IT OVER. If you keep doing the same things you will get the same results. Good Luck.
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