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writes:Ok...SO im 14, you all probably think im silly and dont no what real love is. But I went out with this lad, i hardly knew him when he asked me out, so first time i said no. He was at my school and in my year but I had never really spoke to him. Eventually after a few days I said yes. The time i spent wih him was amazing! But i just wasnt my self around him, and i just didnt no why. I was quiet, and wasnt my real self.So i did an awful thing... i dumped him through text! I asked my best friend what i should do becaus i was thinking of dumping him, and she advised me on the words!Then i egnored his calls, and now i regret it! Then i got to thinking, i didnt know him really well when i began to go out with him, so was i quiet beause i was scared he wouldnt like the real me?We dont talk much anymore, in fact we hardly talk.I just want to know, does he still like me, does he hate me? Is it my fault? The worst thing is he is going to a different school to me, we leave in july, and i need it sorted by then!Ill see him known and again in town, but is i dont get it sorted...im stuffed!I could go on forever about him, asking for advice, but i think ive said enough for now.If anyone can help and advise me?
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (25 May 2007):
Well, you're right. You're only 14.
But perhaps writing him a letter, even a long letter, telling him why you broke up with him won't hurt. Just be very clear that the letter isn't an invitation necessarily to get back together, but just that one day you'd like to be friends again.
He's probably wracked his brain trying to figure out what he did wrong. Letting him know that he didn't do anything wrong might go a long way to helping him out. Relationships when people are your age are important because all youth are fairly impressionable, and what opinions we form of ourselves then will persist well into adulthood. If you can be mature about it, maybe he will be too. But be prepared for negativity. He might want nothing to do with you, in which case, at least you tried, and then get on with your life.
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