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writes:my ex and i got back together after a break up of a year.he finished things then asked me back so we gave it another go.we've been together 4months now and its been goin good up until recently.hes been quite distant and doesnt text as much.he blames it on tiredness when i ask him whats wrong.i ask him if he still loves me and why isnt he as attentive and he says im being silly.well this morning id had enough and i said he should be single and to go and enjoy himself as he doesnt seem to be as in to me as he was. obviously i wanted him to fight for me and text back saying sorry and that he loved me but he got really angry and said ive made my feelings clear and to leave him well alone now. i apologised and asked what he really wanted but he said it didnt matter n that i had messed him around and that ive made it clear what i want.he tells me to leave him alone. does he really mean this or is he being stubborn?i dont want to lose him but what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): When I was on the other end of this situation, I didn't fight to get the relationship back, simply because I respected her decision and didn't see a need to argue about it. If she wanted a breakup, then that was her choice, as much as I wished it could be otherwise. I loved her very much.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Miss England, One thing a grown woman should never do is play games with a man....or anyone for that matter. Men are practical animals..if you tell him to leave...he will. Especially if he is looking for a way out already. He was acting distant and weird...why couldn't you have a grown up heart to heart with him? Why get all upset and tell him to go and play around? He is a man....that is like telling a lion...hey...there is a group of fat gazelles over there...go younder! This isn't a Hugh Grant/Julia Roberts romantic comedy here.You say you don't want to lose him, but you have by playing a horrible game. Whether he means this or not...it is something that you need to work through on your own for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): I myself did exactly the same thing and waited for him to fight for me,well 4 weeks later and still nothing from him this tells me he behaved in that manner so i would dump him made it so much easier for him to walk away,best advice is move on get out there start being noticed and you will soon be wanted
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 June 2011):
 this is why you should never say things to a person that you don't really mean. i can see that he pretty much drove you to say it though, by his acting uninterested and cold towards you i know you were just looking to get a reaction from him weren't you?maybe you could tell him that and then leave the next step up to him. don't continue chasing him coz for some reason he doesn't seem like he is into you as much now you're right. do you think he might be depressed/stressed about something and maybe this is why he does not want to put as much effort into the relationship? maybe he just regrets getting back together? see if he will talk to you about things - telling you to not be 'silly' is not really a sufficient answer, if you are SURE that he is being distant etc, it is only fair that he is honest with you, even if the truth hurts you at the timex
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