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writes:I met this man who helps me to get through my divorce. I was very unhappy at that time. He is very supportive and attentive. My life is back on track now. Then I realise I am not in love with him. But he said he has fallen in love with me and very happy to show me off as I am 18 years younger than him. I want to leave but don't know how to start as he has done so much for me in this year. Please advise.
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reader, Miss Lab +, writes (13 March 2008):
 right, i can see why you are confused as to where to start.
First of all i think that next time he opens up to you that you should state to him how you feel, let him know that you are thankful for all the help he has given and how much you appreciate it and that you do love him but you are both not feelings the same type of love.
Its good that he wants to show you off, but it doesnt mean much to you if you do not feel the same way. If you dont do it now you could be stuck with feeling like this for a very long period of time. Also, if you do not tell him and keep all these feelings bottled up then it could lead to even bigger things, for example depression?
let him know because its not only you getting hurt but unfortunately, it is him aswell.
The both of you shouldnt suffer like this, you could still be very good mates even thought you were not in a relationship, its not like he is going to loose you for good, if you make this clear it might make the situation a whole lot better than it would have been if you do not state the truth.
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 You should let him know how much you appreciate how much he has done for you in your time of need. If he's a true friend, you won't lose his companionship and hopefully he respects you more than arm candy and won't be offended or put off. If you really want to cut ties with him but don't want to hurt his feelings, just remember that leading someone on is way worse than telling them to fuck off. Just from personal experience, don't write him off as a friend just because he has feelings for you. Hope it all works out.
-Jmo
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Tell him how grateful you are for him helping you, he's a nice man, yadda yadda yadda and that you are not interested, and that maybe yall could just be friends and that if he needs any help in the future with things that you could help him, because that is what friends do-help each other.
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