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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: I don't understand why girls just don't seem all that attracted to me. I'm 19, fairly smart, good hygiene, nice and funny. But women still don't seem to like me, I always just crash and burn in the friend zone. Sure, I might not have a six pack but i like to think that girls look for more in a guy then just his body. I have never had a girlfriend and that's not due to lack of effort. I put myself out there and always just get rejected. My friends say its cause I have no game but I don't know what game is? why should we even play games when it comes to dating and relationships? Can't one guy come up to a girl and just say "I think you're cute, do you want to go catch a movie?". I don't know maybe there's just something about me that turns girls off, maybe I'm just ugly. I'm just starting to give up, stop trying all together. that is what scares me the most, is that I'm just going stop caring and wake up one day and realize that I'm 80 years old, still a virgin and still alone.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 This question comes up every so often. When I'm around to answer, I always do the same thing: post this link:
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml
That's what they mean when they say you have no "game".
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reader, melon  +, writes (18 December 2008):
Yeah I agree, it does just sound like you're pretty hung up about the fact that you don't want to be a virgin. I always find that things generally come when you least expect them, and the more you try the less likely you are to manage (maybe I'm wrong) but don't let this bog your life down, it doesn't really matter to be honest. Just do what you want to do and I'm sure good things will happen to you. Don't just focus on getting a girl. Hope this helps :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): The fact that you put 'still a virgin' implies that you are looking more for sex than a relationship. Maybe you're a bit suggestive and women see this, I dunno.
From what you say about putting a lot of effort it, maybe girls think you're trying too hard. Don't put on any fronts or change anything, just be yourself - girls are more likely to be attracted to you that way.
Also your mates say you have 'no game.' I think they mean you don't have enough persistence, that you give up too soon.
Be yourself and stick at it until the girl gives you a definite 'no.' And be in it for the right reasons =]
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