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writes:This is so embarrassing but I need to find out and didn't know where else to ask.Last night, after a night out, I slept at a friends house in their bed. They took the couch.When I woke in the middle of the night, I'd wet the bed. I was mortified. I took off my tights which were wet and soaked them in the sink .I took off the sheet, felt the mattress and that was actually pretty much dry. I turned the mattress over, put the sheet back on.I used a damp cloth with plain water to 'wipe' the wet area of the sheet. I then, as it was about 3am, huddled on the other side of the bed with the duvet and left the wet area open to the air. When I rechecked in the daylight it wasn't stained and wasn't wet and I don't think it smelled - though my tights did.---I was too mortified to tell anyone so I'm now home and panicking myself silly about what's going to happen now. Will they be able to notice - will it smell? will it still be wet? Is it likely that my thick tights soaked up most of the liquid and therefore the smell?I'm so ashamed and I can't imagine the horror of having to explain it to them.I know this isn't the right way to think about it, but will I 'get away with it'? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's getting close to bed time and I'm getting more worried. I sent a text earlier appolgising for other drunken activities... as yet have had no reply - am paranoid this is because they won't talk to me due to this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies. It could have been so much worse and really that's a blessing! No stains, I wasn't sick, I didn't come on, and so far no one has said anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Worse things can happen.i came on my period once at a friends house when i was a child.as it was unexpected,i didnt have a sanitary towel on,so the blood leaked.it was so embarassing !.and the worse thing was my friend did see it !.you just have to remember though that these things are natural and could happen to anyone.its not really anything to be ashamed of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right fi, I usually do alternate soft and alcohol drinks. This has never happened to me before. I'd be horrified if I wet the bed with my other half in the bed...
Trust me, this is never going to reoccur!
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Also in future, try not to drink so much. Alternate soft and alcoholic drinks throughout the night, means you'll be less drunk. And make sure you go to the loo before going to bed.
The last guy i was with, he wet the bed twice in the space of 3 weeks due to having too much to drink, and i was sharing the bed with him BOTH times!!! Safe to say i didn't see him again after that!!! So you're not the first, and won't be the last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you blonde. To be honest, if someone asked me what I've asked here I'd tell them that the friend would be considerate enough to keep it to themselves... But its always different when the situation is your own. Logic takes a running jump.
Part of the problem was their bed is essentially a mattress on the floor, and being disabled I just couldn't jump up to rush to the bathroom. I'd just woken when it started and my legs wouldn't kick in to gear while trying to 'hold it in' at the same time.
I'm hoping to feel less mortified tomorrow as its still very fresh in my mind right now. I'm really worried about seeing them next as I have a habit of cutting ties rather than facing a little embarrassment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): You don't have to explain anything. That is because the rule is:
'when you make such an error of judgement there is no point in compounding the problem, and telling them. As that is only likely to make it worse.'
Just be thankful it was not vomit nor worse.
And next time you go out drinking, pace yourself better, or this embarassing mistake will happen again
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (27 February 2011):
Oh hun, try not to beat yourself up about it. I am sure you aren't the first person this has happened to, and certainly won't be the last. It sometimes can happen to people if they are in a deep sleep, or if they have drank too much.
You did what any decent person would do, and you cleaned it up, which was extremely considerate of you.
If you feel that you need to tell your friend, to get it off your chest and make you feel better, then just tell her like you told us and I am sure she will understand. If not, then its no big deal, you cleaned it up, turned the mattress etc, ....and I doubt at all there will be any smell m'dear so try not to fret x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI can't tell them. I just physically can't bring myself to say out loud 'hi, sorry I urinated in your bed'. I was drunk, and overtired and just did not wake up in time. Not that its any excuse but I've a long medical history of issues related to this but I thought they were finally fixed.
I can't tell them. If I admit it, they will definitely know. If I don't, there's a chance they won't. And if they do find out, I'm praying they'll be kind enough not to bring it up. If they do bring it up, I will have to explain but it'll be easier as they will already know.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (27 February 2011):
How did you wet the bed? Had you had too much to drink? This has happened to me before and yes it's embarrassing, but you have to own up to it. True friends will understand and will be grateful that you mentioned it. These things happen hun, we've all been there. Don't be afraid, just apologise.
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