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writes:I can not stop thinking about a man I worked for in my previous job. He helped me to leave as I was being severely bullied, he was the boss!While there I could feel a mutual attraction building between us. It became quite intense at the end. Now that I have left, neither of us know how we both felt about each other. However, on one occasion he has the never to ask ME to be a little bit more discreet! He was the one initiating the meetings and giving me "the looks"!I have now left and bumped into him, he was unsure how I was going to react buy his body language. When he did stop, he stared deeply into my eyes which made me feel kinda drawn into to him for a second or two, it was a really weird feeling. It was not appropriate to talk there and then but I asked if we could met and he said "call him".That is the hard part - calling him - as I do not want him to feel that I am harassing him. He has my number and I droped a letter asking him to call me and suggested a date away from our old work place.He has not yet called.If you can give me some advice of this one I would be most appreciative. I really like this guy and keep having reoccurring dreams about him. I have it bad!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am testing him and waiting for him to call me. I am feeling rather delicate at the moment as I am still out of work and have been having knock back after knock back job wise. My current partner is emotionally abusive to me and is also knocking my confidence. This evening he had me in tears.
If I ever do ring this guy, I want to be feeling strong and confident and preferably have something positive to talk to him about. I may even attempt to purposely bump into him.
Very few people are unattached totally, as you can see, I'm not. I have yet to find out about his situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): I have a feeling he is married.
Why haven't you called him?
Something just doesn't sound right to me and him asking you to be discrete and meet after work sure seems suspicious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to you both. Its a difficult one. I did not want to make the post very long. There is so much more behind this story and I have only given you the basics.
Before I left, I asked whether we would mentor me. I am a professional who has not long gone into management. I thought he would be a good person as he saw the difficulties I experienced first hand. He asked me about training and I gave him the details. He signed up and has undergone the training. Unfortunately the organisation did not have enough mentors and due to this has linked him with someone else who has never been mentored. I understand that he was a little disappointed as he was under the impression that he would link with me. This would have been the perfect chance to get to know him better. He asked the mentoring company to let me know that he is willing to support me where ever he can. When I saw him he asked me to "call him".
I asked me to be discreet at work as staff were noticing the attraction . He was so blatant with it. In all staff meetings me would scan the room then stare at me for ages. It use to make me feel a little uncomfortable. He has tried to pry information out of me. He is unsure whether i am married or not and has asked me but I did not respond directly. He has shared some intimate information with me for example, he told me he recently was off as he had the "snip". I felt a little embarassed when he told me this as I thought it was so private. I know he has children as I do but I am uncertain of his domestic situation.
As boss of a college, having a crush on a colleague and trying to help her could lead to all kinds of misunderstandings so that is why he asked if I could try to be more discreet. He said that I should try to meet more after work when not so many people were around.
I hope this gives you more of a picture.
If you have any further comments - most appreciated. Everyone keeps telling me to go for it and not live in regret. He's not the type to have flings and affairs as he has not the time. I make him laugh and he is really at ease around me. He admires my strength and determination.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to you both. Its a difficult one. I did not want to make the post very long. There is so much more behind this story and I have only given you the basics.
Before I left, I asked whether we would mentor me. I am a professional who has not long gone into management. I thought he would be a good person as he saw the difficulties I experienced first hand. He asked me about training and I gave him the details. He signed up and has undergone the training. Unfortunately the organisation did not have enough mentors and due to this has linked him with someone else who has never been mentored. I understand that he was a little disappointed as he was under the impression that he would link with me. This would have been the perfect chance to get to know him better. He asked the mentoring company to let me know that he is willing to support me where ever he can. When I saw him he asked me to "call him".
I asked me to be discreet at work as staff were noticing the attraction . He was so blatant with it. In all staff meetings me would scan the room then stare at me for ages. It use to make me feel a little uncomfortable. He has tried to pry information out of me. He is unsure whether i am married or not and has asked me but I did not respond directly. He has shared some intimate information with me for example, he told me he recently was off as he had the "snip". I felt a little embarassed when he told me this as I thought it was so private. I know he has children as I do but I am uncertain of his domestic situation.
As boss of a college, having a crush on a colleague and trying to help her could lead to all kinds of misunderstandings so that is why he asked if I could try to be more discreet. He said that I should try to meet more after work when not so many people were around.
I hope this gives you more of a picture.
If you have any further comments - most appreciated. Everyone keeps telling me to go for it and not live in regret. He's not the type to have flings and affairs as he has not the time. I make him laugh and he is really at ease around me. He admires my strength and determination.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): Just give him a call and find out if you can't stop thinking about it. Once you know where you stand you can decide what do to.
Are you sure he's single?
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 I'm sorry to tell you this, but it doesn't sound as though he's all that interested.
Look: didn't he tell you to be more discreet? I know he was the one giving you the eye and initiating meetings, but he might have decided it was better to pull back.
And now: you wrote to him and suggested a time and place to meet and have heard nothing. How long has it been since you sent the letter, by the way?
I guess you COULD call him once only and see if he shows any interest in getting together. However, I think you should be prepared for a non-response.......Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear.
Fact is, if men want to see a woman, they WILL call, or email to suggest it - in other words, will chase her......
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