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writes: I have a very good male friend who i have known a few months and im falling in love with him, i see him twice a week speak to him everyday but he has been hurt and doesnt want a relationship. He knows I like him alot but I dont know how best to act around him so as not to lose him incase something does progress in time. I dont want my feelings to scare him off any ideas!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Juliette  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 It seems you know how he feels because you say he doesn't want a relationship. A few months isn't long so perhaps you should be yourself and make sure when you are around he is at ease. This should, over time, make him have only pleasant connections to your presence. Apparrently, not making youself too available is also good as otherwise he may not have time to miss you. Try not to be in his face every moment as this could have a negative effect. I know, I have the T shirt on this one and it is very hard to keep your distance from someone you care for, want to love, yet it is too soon. Just be friends and see what develops, the small disclosures, the light touches that will come from him being comfortable with you in his space.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Hey,
falling in love with friends isn't always easy. And it doesn't always work out. But if you really love him, then it's time to do something about it.
First of all, how does he act around you? And do you feel/know he likes you as much as you like him. If the feeling's the same all around, we can take a step forward here.
He shouldn't be scared off. If he's a good friend he'll respect your honesty for coming clean with him, getting it all out in the open. You never know, he might have been scared to tell you and it could be a relief for him not to be the one to talk first!
In the end, I'm sure it'll all work out for the best, just act how you usually do around him but don't drop it on him like a huge bombshell. He may find it a bit weird that someone he's so close to has suddenly reaveled they love him more than life itself. If it's meant to be, it'll happen!
Hope this helped - Find your happiness!
Phoebe xxxx
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