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writes:I'am seeing this guy and i really like him, problem is i'am really scared of getting into another relationship as all of my past relationships have all ended badly. I'am scared that if i become his girlfriend he will use and abuse me like all of my ex's did. He's a bit of a party animal but his friends tell me that he wouldnt ever hurt me and they ment it from the bottom of their heart. i really want to be with him but i don't want to ruin it by being paranoid and frightened all the time. please help i would be so gratful
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the advice it really helped! we are definatly taking things step by step and i think iam getting to trust him enough to be his girlfriend :)! He's a ladies man, so alot of girls want him which does make a me a little jealous because what if he decides to start seeing them instead of me? But i don't think he would he doesnt seem the type. Thank you thank you for the advice :) XX!
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reader, xXJDXx +, writes (27 August 2010):
Hey hun, look you just gotta go with the flow!
You can't live in the past and every relationship you have in the future you CANT base on the previous, if I was to do that I wouldn't even have a relationship due to some of the things that have happened to me..
Take things slow and relax into it gradually, he could be the one you've been looking for!
Good luck, JD :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Maybe you could just be friends until you feel more comfortable with him. The way you are feeling is understandable considering what has happened, so maybe you just need to take things really slowly. I think that, as you get to know and trust him more, your worries will lessen, and you will feel more at ease. But it may take time. There is no rush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Well, you chose this man to be your boyfriend so there must be something about him that makes you trust him because if you were hurt in the past you would most likely learn from it and choose better men. My advice is to try not to let your thoughts make you go insane. If his friends say that he would never hurt you, then you have to takr a leap of faith and believe them. I wish you the best of luck.:]
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