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writes: Ok,i have been in a relationship for the last 4 years. When i met my partner i thought he was the one and couldnt ever imagen being with anyone else (bare in mind i was only 17 at this point)anyway over our time together we have had ups and downs but no worse then any other couple but since January this year i have been having serious doubts about us. We did split for a month and i was sad but felt like a huge weight had been lifted off me but we ended up getting back together. Things have been ok between us since but hes always on about getting a house, having kids etc! Im only 21 and dont want all those things yet (this doesnt mean i dont in the future and with him would be great but he cant seem to wait). Ive also only ever slept with one other person and i find myself day dreaming about being with someone new (i have a particular person in mind someone i met at work) although one thing i'd NEVER cheat. You see my dilemma is after saying all that i do love him, i do care for him, i dont hugely want to see him move on in a new realtionship but yet im not completley happy, i think we are jst too different and even though we get on i dont know where that would leave us in the future. Please can someone give me some advice on what to do, im so torn, i dont want to regret leaving someone whos decent and could make me happy but i also dont want to wake up in 5 years time and regreat never doing anything to possibley make my life and me really happy. Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): I do believe you should go with your strongest feelings. If you're not happy don't stay just bc its comfortable. If your ment to be together, it will be. Its not an easy thing to determine, good luck!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (25 April 2006):
 I think you are too dependent on him after all this time. It often happens when you get with someone so young, you just don't know what life will be like without them and you don't realise what is out there for you.
You say a weight was lifted off your shoulders when you were apart? I get the feeling there's a lot going on in your head, a lot of doubts about you two and I don't believe you think there's a real future for you both. I think you're just hanging onto something that you know because you're scared of being alone and unhappy.
Although you seem to have something good, you have to take the risk of finding something great. You can't waste your life with someone then regret it so go ahead and follow your heart.
Whether you regret your decision or not, whatever you decide to do, I believe that if two people are destined to be together, they will be. So go ahead, follow your heart and I hope it makes you happy.
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