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writes:Hi i just turned 28. i have two children that i love dearly an i been with the father of my kids for seven years. im the only one workin an has been for the last two years. my boy frend is a great father to his childrn, witch he has three, my 2 and an older child from a nother woman. he has a drug an alcohol problem, more alcohol these days. any way he stays home wit the girls while i work six days a week an some times two shifts in one day. i take wat ever comes my way because we can use the money. the problem is i just found out im six weeks pregnant an i dont know wat to do. im so emotional about this. i want to have an abortion but then again i want to have the baby. iv aborted five years ago because my bf was on drugs really bad at the time an i was the only one workin an new that i could'nt haddel a child at the time an i made a promiss that id never abort again. I no i need to make up my mind fast but still dont want to regret havin this man baby wen he cant support us now. he has plans on getin a job.
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reader, smiles143 +, writes (27 July 2010):
smiles143 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell my childern are two girls and there five and six i have talked to my bf . He says wat ever i decided hes be hind me 100% like i said before he promiss he'll get a job but i just dont wanna live on wat if's
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reader, neadie winters  +, writes (27 July 2010):
okay slow down he's a bum im sorry but he is time to be harsh can you get anything from the state is he getting the dole have this child but put it in to adoption or fostercare go get help form teh services please. as for him he has the money the spend it on booze or drugs but barely any to feed the kids. i know you love him and all that but at the end of the day you have to think what is right for the kids do you have a mum or firend or somebody you can move in with your 28 not dead. so if you do have friends or family live with them go to night school it going to be rough i tell you that you have to think of the little ones now. once their sorted then you can handle the rest either that or you be going around in circle.
just remember you still think about that abortion that happen years ago could you go through that again
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 Can you work to support the baby?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): I guess it's either one or the other having a full time job when you have kids, depending on the children's age anyway. But it's normally the father who should be having the full time job.
Talk to him! Tell him how you feel. Communication is key.
Also, don't do anything you don't want to.
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