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writes:I'm a 46 year old female in love with another female. I am convinced she loves me as well. I told her how I felt about her and she did deny she felt the same way. I am sure that is because she has been married and is confused by her feelings. She seems to act like a jilted lover if I don't email her back right away, or she reads something into an email that's just not what I meant. She seems to get jealous as well. I went to see her for a weeks vacation and when I left to to home she asked me to stay for another week but I had to go, so when I got home there was an email from her that in part read "I have felt sad and empty all day, I didn't want you to go". I seem to respond to her emails within minutes of getting her email and sometimes she waits 5 days to email me back, she is very busy at work as a live-in manager of a retirement facility, so I will give her that. My question is what is the best way to get her to come to me instead of me going to her? Should I back off on emailing her back right away after I get her emails? Should I tone my emails down and stop telling her I miss her etc? She does tell me she "Loves and Misses me TONS". Any advice would be appreciated. I don't want to push her, but I'm tired of playing the cat and mouse game. I need to find a way to see if she comes to me. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): ask her how long cud she wate with out seein u.if it aint long say do u want me to cum n cee u.if i aint to much. tell her u r goin inaway if she loves u then she wud lv 2 c ya. k mate all the best ye take it eazy.mark
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reader, kelsi +, writes (29 June 2007):
kelsi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionInteresting!!! I got an email from my gal on Thursday evening and I did not respond as you suggested and then this morning I got another email from her asking "where are you?" "Are you okay?". You may be on to something having me not respond back to her right away, don't you think??
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reader, xSarax  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 I'm here to remind you of what you will have been told whilst growing up - treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen. And if she was straight then obviously shes going to be very confused right now. Try ignoring her for a week and if she's anything like you say she is, she will come running, trust me on that one. When she finally does then ask her how she feels and if my theory's right you will get a straight answer.
Best of luck x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Thats exactly what you have to do sometimes, just back off a bit and let her do some of the work, thats also one way of telling if someone really likes you or not.
As frustrating as it is, i find if someone does not email me back very quickly then it makes me more determined to speak to them.
Take care.xx.
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