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*haydenn1
writes:hey every one recently my mother has decided that she is going to move away and its my choice if we do or not im very confused and angry that she put this on me i want to go i really do but i find it hard and scary about a place i have never seen from a place i have lived in my whole life. i will be moving like 5 hours away and i dont want to leave my family and friends. i find it hard to make friends and be in places with people i dont know and my mum and her boyfriend just think im lazy and just get angry at me. im really confused im 15 and we will be moving when i leave school i think this being on my head will effect my grades in the most important time of school and i dont want to say no and have the fact that i have denied my mum better chances and things im just so confused :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Well lets look at it this way:
1. You said yourself you want to go
2. They are waiting until you have finished school, so it cannot affect your grades - I presume they will wait until you have finished your GCSE's, and then you can do your A Levels at a new school which I think is a very fair deal.
3. You dont want to leave your family, so if you dont go you will leave your mother (arugably the most important person in your family!) - that is not a good option is it!
4. You say you dont make friends easily, but you already have friends - so clearly you are capable of making friends so that wont be a problem either.
I think you need to get on with it and move with your mum - if she is going to have a better life in this new place then you will end up having a better life too. This will be a good experience for you and you will learn a lot, it will prepare you well for life as an adult after school - like if you choose to go to Uni, you will have to move away and make new friends so it will be good preparation for that.
Of course it isnt going to be easy, and everyone is scared of a big change like moving away. But as long as you are with your mum then you have great support and you are together as a family which is the most important thing. It wont be as bad as you think, a lot of kids change schools when they go from GCSE to A Level so there will be other people in the same boat as you. You will make friends, you have made friends before so when you are forced into a new situation you have to adapt and you will find yourself making an effort to talk to people.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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