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writes:I asked this guy last night,via email about his feelings for me. We've been going on dates for months,and even slept over at his place last weekend. He's not the typical asshole kind of guy.Hes very sweet and anybody would assume by his actions that he really has feelings for me, but he never has spoken his feelings to me. So I asked him and now he's ignoring me. It's like we can talk about anything under the sun, except for his feelings. That's like a forbidden topic or something. I just don't understand why would a guy do this? Am I in the wrong for wanting some clarity regarding how he feels? I don't think I am. He acts like he has feelings for me, so why cant he say it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): The line you wrote that says "now he's ignoring me" really bothers me. do you think he's with you just to have a girl friend to make his life more interesting? personally, i think that if y'all have been dating for months and he's really sweet but won't tell you how he feels, he probably just not that into you. sorry, i hate to be blunt. what are your feelings for him? have you told him?
men are weird (seriously weird) even if they have feelings, many deny the fact to themselves - no, we don't know why - but, if he continues to ignore you...move on. a relationship with someone ignoring you is kinda the opposite of a relationship. good luck, honey, and no matter what, don't put this crap on yourself...i'm sure you're a great person, and it's not your fault, or shortcoming, or anything, it's just the way it is - and there really are lots of guys to pick from out there. peace to you!
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reader, Max39 +, writes (14 March 2009):
Without knowing him, I can only go with the "guy" points on this. So here it is. He most likely has some strong feelings for you ~ especially if you've been seeing eachother for months. He probably has some issue with verbalizing his feelings out of simple fear. Fear of where that will put you two, and even a fear that what you do have will end. So its easier to just show by action. Actions can remain "undefined" if needed. You're not wrong for wanting to know, but you may have to deal with the idea that he will have to tell you in his time. For the moment, I would just take the kindness as it is, and just be patient. If you're really into this relationship. I hope that helps you out...
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (14 March 2009):
 Just be careful. I know guys that seem sweet but are anything but. Lack of communication always spooks me. If you could elaborate a bit on how long you have known him, or weather or not he is willing to spend time with your friends or what he does talk to you about, it would be easier to pick his brain.
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