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writes:im 16 and i havent done anythimk more than kiss at the moment.im with a guy, and we have been going out for about a month or so. i no that he really wants to go futher with the relationship and get more sexual, but i dont think im ready.when we go out togther alone, all he does is kiss me, and i dont even like kissing that much, but i have to do it because im not ready to give him anything else. i dont want to lose him, and im scared that he will get feed up of waiting.i think im ready but when it gets to it i get scared, and i dont want to do it. im even worried about touching it. what should i do, go for it, or carry on kissing him 24/7 and hateing it?
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reader, uonlyliveonce +, writes (15 May 2006):
 i had sex for the first time when i was 16 and made my boyfriend wait about 4month even though i was ready i just thought id make him wait bit longer if he wont wait he isnt the one you want to be with anyway.when it right you'l know. if your with the right lad you wont need to ask yourself if your ready you'l just know amd you wont be scared with my first we were really close so nothing ever felt awkward between us if your comfortable with eachother you can do anything.never give in to a pushy lad it isnt worth it.oh and when you are ready theres nohing to be scared of dont worry ;)
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (10 May 2006):
 Hey listen don't do it til you feel its right...a month is definitely not long enough especially at 16 years of age. If he wants it he will wai til you are ready and if not then he isn't worth it...take my advise, rushing into it for him will be a big regret (I did it myself) If you wait and do it when you are ready you will understand it more. Don't let anyone pressure you into it...and hey if you do decide you are ready be sure that he is someone who you can trust 100% and please please protect yourself with a condom ok? Keep me posted!
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (9 May 2006):
 my first time was rushed and its something i regret but have learn from. you've only been the relationship for a month which isnt long, if this guy feels anything for you he'll wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help! its nice to know im not alone.
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reader, lil_bex16 +, writes (7 May 2006):
am 16 n i ave done no more than kissin eitha n i am a bit nervous bout doin it too coz i rly wanna am just nervous bout it but if he rly cares about u them he will wait, dont do summet u dont wanna do, ive felt how u r now n ive over come that except i rly wanna take things further but am nervous bout doin it, but neva get forced into owt, if he forces u into it hes not worth it hun, go 2 ur own pace not some1 elses, regardless if u love him or wht eva am goin through it now. so ur not alone chick.
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reader, been there done that +, writes (7 May 2006):
Only do what you feel confortable with, do not feel presured into doing what you're not ready for.
Hell your only 16 whats the rush. Is he older and more experienced or would this be his first time to?
Tell him you're not ready to go further just yet. Remember if he thinks you're worth it he;ll wait regardless how long it takes, if he doesn't wait then he's not worth it.
Good Luck
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