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writes:So, here's the situation.. awhile ago I met this guy named alex .We started talking more and I could tell I was starting to like him but just a little because, I had a boyfriend and he also had a girlfriend and was always talking about how special she was to him, how much he loved her and blah blah. He treated her so well and is seriously the sweetest guy I've ever met. A few months passed and I found out him and his girlfriend broke up, I was so shocked. A week after they broke up he told me he liked me and he'd ask me out in a heartbeat if I didn't have a boyfriend. I told him I had liked him all along but I thought I'd never have a chance because of the way he talked about his girl, and I have a boyfriend that I do care about. He said he understood, and we never know what might happen in the future. Not too long after that a side of him came out that Id never seen before.I guess he quit smoking, drinking and doing drugs all for his girl. Once they broke up all those things started up again. It worried me.A month later me and my bf broke up. I still like Alex and he claims that he doesn’t smoke or do drugs anymore but I’m not sure I believe him. I hate it because I know if I had met him when he was doing all those bad things I'd never give him a second look. I think what keeps me holding on is because I know there is good deep in him. He's always giving me false hope that someday we can be together. I don't know what to do...I dont want to like him, because I know I deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): I think i would run from this one, not walk. You do deserve better and you know it yourself.
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reader, Brij  +, writes (7 February 2007):
Having been out with someone who did drugs, I can tell you that you do deserve better in a relationship. Even if they do stop for you, it will re-surface and if, in the future, you do want to leave him, you shouldn't have to worry about whether it will lead to him going back to drugs again.
It does sound like this bloke is really good at heart, but I'd advise you to keep him as a dear friend, and find someone that deserves you more.
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reader, Saz464 +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Ask yourself if you can look past all the drink and drugs. You may see how sweet and decent he can be but I think he has lost sight of it. He broke up with someone he loved very much [by the sound of it] so of course he will of been sidetracked quite a bit.
Try to help him, offer him advice or just suggest he cuts down. He'll see that you are a nice girl and willing to help him. He may even fall for you like he did with his previous girlfriend.
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