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*iss.a.mirror
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and he's been wonderful to me, we even have plans of moving together in about a year...After three months of dating, I cheated on him with a guy I used to be in love with, but he turned out to be quite the opposite of what I had expected, so it just made me love my boyfriend even more. After that, I promised to myself that I would never cheat on him again, but recently I have been dealing with an issue about my freedom. You see, I want to be with other people, I want to experience new things, but in order to do that, I must stop being with him, which I don't want to; I know I couldn't live without him.I don't want to cheat on him again, but I miss being free to go and be with whoever I wished to be.I know I must make a desicion, something's got to be left behind... but I'm just not sure if I'll be able to fight my desires if the opportunity to realise any of my fantasies comes up.I really don't want to hurt him, and I know that if I speak with him about this, he won't understand; he's said quite often that he'd never forgive me if I cheatted on him... I don't know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, nologo  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 You have doubts - it is not decision time.
This is what you want rather than will do.
"I'm just not sure if I'll be able to fight my desires if the opportunity to realise any of my fantasies comes up".
Such fantasies are part of who you are - they are not reality.
And if you chase desires, you may become far from reality too.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 i think what u are going through is what everybody in a committed relationship never cease to wonder because its natural to feel that way. the trick is being able to hold it together and be faithful to your partner. you found it easy to cheat on him before thats why you are looking at it as if its a dilemma. your choice should be easy just ask yourself if you love this guy enough not to cheat on him again? do you see yourself with this guy having a future together? is he the one you had been looking for? does he love u enough? if your answer is yes to all this questions the truth is if u loose this guy you will never forgive yourself. if u have doubts maybe thats why you cant stop wondering. so the choice is yours. if u feel u dont want him just leave the poor guy alone and stop hurting him.
Jovial
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