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writes:I've been with this man for four years after my divorce. Things go well until recent months he's always got pain and aches. He is near 70. Our sex life has gone downhill. He has tried his best to please me but the strength is just not there. Im not wanting to leave but Im not sure whether I can carry on like this. I dont know how to talk to him. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Hi. You dont sound very emotionally attached to this guy. Was he a rebound relationship after your marriage broke down? If you love him ask him to get checked out at the doctors about the aches and pains. Constant pains have a cause and he might be able to make that better. Pain can be draining so if he does suffer a bit it might affect his performance in bed if hes tired or uncomfortable. So see if you can help him. You have to face the fact that hes not getting any younger tho. And if you are questioning the relationship over aches ect now, please think ahead to the coming years with him as he isnt getting any younger. You seem to have a problem with things now so what will it be like, in say 10 years time? You have to really think about that and be honest with him if you feel things arent going to work out for you both long term.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Sounds to me like this guy was there for you when you really needed him. Getting over divorce is tough. You must have realised when you met him that the age difference between you would throw up some difficulties eventually but maybe you wern't looking that far ahead.
I think it may break the guys heart for you to leave him so why not try to get help with his 'performance' and maybe both of you could try a health giving regime to give him a boost.
He sound like a good guy and as my mother always said 'When you get a good man...you hang on tight'
AE x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): For four years and you just want to leave him just because of that? Are you that desperate? If you are then do what you want to do, but I wouldn't leave a guy just for that, it all depends if I love him no matter what.
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