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writes:Hey, I recently met these two girls Sam and Sky, when we first met I hit it off with Sam really well but now when the 3 of us are together I get mixed signals. One minute Sam is flirting with me and the next day Sky is, I'm 16 and get really nervous around girls, I don't know what to do cos I like Sam more than Sky but I don't know what to do about them both hitting on me. I'm afriad that if I tell Sky I don't feel that way about her, Sam will not talk to me.What should I do?thanks in advance for all your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): Hey thanks for all of your advice i have resolved the issue it was a lack of communication on my part.
Sam thought i liked her and Sky thought i liked her.
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reader, lovelynightmare  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Let my tell you from experience that friendships with multiple girl plus romance with one of them almost always end up in a mess. (picture 3 girls in my scenario, super scary).
I would say ask out Sam, that way you would be sending a message to Sky you aren't interested, and if the two of you are an item, of course you'll be talking together and hopefully you can still keep Sky as a friend.
You are performing a balancing act, however, and no matter how hard you try to keep things in balance, they may still fall. Keep thinking about the possible scenarios and make a wise decision.
Wishing you the best,
lovelynightmare
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reader, Griffo +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Hey mate,
You do have two main options:
1) You need to talk to Sam and just ask her out. Or kiss her everything else will follow. But if you don't want to actually say the words or go in for the kiss, It will take longer and make it easier on your feelings but just hang out with her more often (movies, walks in the park, phone chats, etc). Have a chat and tell her that you do not want to ruin the friendship between you and Sky.
2) Or you could be very lucky and try sitting them both down together and tell them you like both of them and want to be with both of them but don't know which one, say "I like you both as much as each other". I know this might sound unusual but you might just very well be with both of them... At the same time. It does happen!
Cheers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): well i think you should just flirt with sam back. If you let sam know you like her more, i am sure she isnt going to hate you!!! after you flirt with sam in front of sky and sky picks up on it, she will/should back off... if not, just let sky know.. if you are nervous to tell her, ask her out but make it VERY clear it is JUST AS FRIENDS!!!!! if you ask sky out and be like, just as friends.. ya know ur a cool girl but just as friends. thats wat happend to me, she will understand, now that guy is closer to me then anyone!
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Well, they both could be just playing with you, so keep that in mind. But you can't date both at the same time so you have to pick. Obviously you like Sam so go for it. You have to do whats best for you. And if Sam doesnt want you then you cant go for Sky either. And if Sam wont talk to you because you hurt Sky's feelings then they probably didnt like you in the first place.
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