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writes:Okay here goes, I'm 16 in a couple of weeks, I am in love with a 20 year old. I'm from the UK so it's perfectly legal when i turn 16. Anyway about 6 months ago i told him i liked him and he just kinda didnt really say he didnt like me but he didnt want to date me - he's also a friend of my step-brother. anyway i've tried moving on, i think about him everyday and where it went wrong- cause he was being very friendly. I started seeing this guy who's my own age- my mum and friends pushed me into it but i had initial attraction to him. After a couple of dates with this new guy he told me he loves me, i'm freaking out. I cant say the L word unless i mean it! this new guy has asked me out several times over the last 5 years so he would be extremely crushed- though the other day i warned him and told him about the 20 yea old. I feel terrible, i never wanted him to fall in love with me so quickly, not when i've been trying really hard to love him back. I told him i liked him a few weeks ago when we first started seeing each other, i feel if i break it off now, i'll crush him like i was crushed, but i cant lie to him, i cant tell him i love him if i dont! sorry this is long please help!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 April 2011):
Believe me, it's better to end it now, rather than later when he really will feel pain. End it now, move on.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (17 April 2011):
The answer is: be honest. If he finds out the truth afterwards he will feel even worse. No point in doing that. Be 100%. No other solution
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reader, siru2311  +, writes (17 April 2011):
no guy likes living or feeling something that aint true.
as a guy i suggest u tell him. Yes, u might crush him initially but if you dont he will live thinking everything is great while in reality it isnt.
save him time & hurt by telling him before his feelings for you evolve & become bigger & deeper. :)
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