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writes:There's a really sweet guy in my algebra class and he's asked me out. I like him, but don't. He's a really good guy and is more friend than anything else. I told him I don't want to ruin our friendship but he wants to try. I'm confused and I've gone to different friends for help. One knows him from swim team and says he's weird. Others don't really know him. He's not that cute and not very popular but a really great friend. How can't I hurt him?? Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (19 October 2012):
 The best way to protect him at this point is to not try to maintain the friendship. He likes you, friendship won't be good enough for him anymore and will just hurt him. You saying you don't want to ruin your friendship is turning him down nicely and him saying he wants to try is him rejecting your nice refusal, so it's time to just say you're not interested.
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reader, kenny +, writes (19 October 2012):
 I think the only way you can be here is totally honest with him about how you feel. don't lead him on, letting him think there is a chance at a later date. Sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind, be honest with him now. He maybe upset, but further down the line he will respect that you were honest with him.
Good luck
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 October 2012):
 His heart is for him to protect. Once he's put himself out there he's also already accepted that he might get hurt. It is not your job to shield him from that. Just tell him how you feel.
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