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anonymous
writes:I'm going out with an awesome girl right now, that's everything I could possibly want. Right now, the relationship couldn't be going much better (but not perfect of course, haha)The problem is, a couple days ago she went to a different state WAY up North from where I am to see a school that she might go to. I'm terribly afraid of the idea that she will go to school there, and leave me down here in the south. I love every single part of her, and I really can't imagine her leaving to go to school there. I would tell her this myself, but at the same time, I don't want to hold her back just because I selfishly want to keep her for myself. So I really don't want to make her feel guilty about the idea and refuse herself a good education.I thought about applying to the same school, but I see little to no chance of me getting in. I'm not exactly an A student, nor can I possibly get in even if I was to somehow turn my grades around at this point.I guess the reason I'm afraid is because I have abandonment issues. My parents got divorced when I was 10, so I really felt it hardest because I was the oldest and had been with them the longest.In summary (TL;DR version) I really love her, and because of that, I don't want to hold her back should she decide to go, but at the same time can't imagine not having her
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Why do you think the distance will be so terrible? If you are meant for each other, you can manage the long distance issue. If you are not... better finish it now than later.
Look, if it helps to know this, my bf and I have been apart for almost a year now, because i´m working overseas. We use msn and skype every single day, we miss each other terribly, and we won´t be seeing each other in months, but we´re still getting married next year. Cheer up! spring brake, christmas, and summer holidays can be the times to be together, until college is over.
Think about it, and cheer up!
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reader, iwillhelp  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 Ok so what i suggest you do is tell hr everything you just wrote i believe that will answer your question if you did already and if she has her heart set on it you need to break up with her so the day when she leaves you wont be so hurt u will be kinda over if you need me or have more questions my email
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reader, iwillhelp +, writes (9 November 2007):
Ok so what i suggest you do is tell hr everything you just wrote i believe that will answer your question if you did already and if she has her heart set on it you need to break up with her so the day when she leaves you wont be so hurt u will be kinda over if you need me or have more questions my email
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