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writes: I have a conundrum. My long term boyfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago. We lived together, and I am staying elsewhere until our lease is up at the end of Sept. After that I will get my own place, etc. It was coming for a while, not a bad breakup (mutual), we are both much happier as friends. I can seriously say that I am ready to move on and don't have baggage from this one. There is a guy that I see all the time and I am certain that he would like to ask me out, and it is only a matter of time before he actually does. He isn't aware of my temporary situation. While I might be ready to date again, I want to wait until I am settled in. If he asks me out before the end of Sept, I don't want to turn him down. I also don't want to have to explain the situation right away - even if I'm sure I'm ready to date I don't want to seem like damaged goods by retelling the situation. What do I say? "I'll call you in a month?"
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reader, pica +, writes (16 August 2006):
Good advice below - you might also want to consider how you'll feel if the new guy doesn't ask you out. I'm not trying to put you down, but I'm wondering if the break-up is less easy than you are making out and by focusing on what-to-do-when-new-guy-asks-you-out, you might be glossing over some other, harder stuff. Maybe you should give yourself some time alone to really get over your ex - even just a few weeks. Then perhaps if new man hasn't come through, you could ask him? Good luck.
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reader, dummyduckling  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 there really isnt much to worry about if he does ask you out then just tell him " at the moment i'm fully booked because im moving house and my social life needs to go on hold untill im settled in so... its a yes but a late yes" and if he does like you enough he will wait.
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