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writes:I need to give you guys some background, so bear with me... I have a type of mental disorder called cyclothymic bipolar disorder. Mostly it means that on a day to day I have emotional swings that are fairly illogical and last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours.Overall this can trigger larger episodes if I find myself in the wrong circumstances. For much of 2012 and the beginning of 2013 I found myself very depressed and after increasing my medication a few times I realized that I needed to do something different. I got on an additional medication and it worked wonders. I'm much more myself over the last few months and everyone has noticed.The one thing I have noticed as a side effect is that I'm not lasting as long in bed. Not comically short or anything like that, but I went from lasting 20-30 mins down to about 6 minutes or less. It's not nearly as much fun for me and the girl I'm currently seeing is VERY difficult to get off so it's very tough for me to last long enough to give her a good orgasm. I've never had this problem before and I can only assume it's the medication. Any advice on ways to last longer in bed? I've already tried stopping periodically and changing positions often, but it only helps a very very little bit. I'm willing to try just about anything (except stop my medication obviously). Any ideas would be welcomed. Please help me make sure that I don't have to choose between my sex life and my meds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2013): With my boyfriend, i find it helpful to be on top, in control, and to get mine first thing. Have her insert you and try rolling her hips forward and back, grinding her pubic bone against yours right at the base of the clit. When i do this, it keeps my boyfriend hard, but doesnt do much else for him, allowing me to get my orgasm. This causes a lot of wetness down there that really helps him out when its his turn. Both of us are satisfied, no matter how long he lasts. as i am very difficult to get off, i can understand your issue. Hope it helps out
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2013): Hi! You need to go to a professional about it, I mean a doctor but a good one... They're pretty hard to come by in the UK tbh, don't know about the US! Cos nobody on here can advise you medically, as this is a specific thing that will not sound weird at all- it's very common for medication for mental illness to decrease libido, and he WILL have come across similar problems.
Don't be bashful haha! :) sex life is important to young people, so don't let it stress you out, as it's a medical thing that someway can surely be remedied! Even if it's a few smalllifestyle changes... Which you'll get used to, :) ! Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat answer is completely not helpful and not relevant. I don't care about "most" women and I don't care about what other guys do or don't do. This is the first time in my life I haven't been able to bring a girl to orgasm consistently and regardless of how she feels it's upsetting. It's a problem for ME and I'm asking for advice on how to fix it.
Telling me it isn't a problem is not helpful at all.
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