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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi! My ex broke things off with me recently. My friends have all moved away, and whilst I am starting to make some new ones they have all settled down and can't really afford to go out so I find myself going out by myself mainly, which I hate but I can't be a hermit. There are a few questions to this. I don't know where to meet guys (at work they are all married or in relationships and in what little social life I do have I haven't come across any eligible guys). I have tried singles nights but haven't met anyone I click with. I would rather build a friendship first with guys that I see on a regular basis.So, I have no friends to go out with. Anyway, I do go out but I am worried about bumping into my ex because I will look like a total 'billy no mates'. I know I shouldn't let other people rule my life. I was going to go to the cinema by myself tonight but I couldn't bring myself to do it. See, my ex claims he has no social life but he is always out and about with people and I don't know how I would feel seeing him with all his mates and maybe a new girlfriend if I am hanging around on my own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Oh you poor thing! My heart went out to you reading your question. Maybe you should consider taking up a hobby or a class in something. Maybe a martial art or something. That way, you will build up a lot of confidence and meet other people too. I can recommend JuJitsu and Jeetkune-do as I have personally trained in both and find them really rewarding. Many of these classes welcome new beginners and you wil probably find that the first class is free also.Maybe this isnt your scene, you could even have a look at the local college prospectus and look for a course that may interest you. Dont feel that you have to go out to the pub to have a social life. If you start focussing on yourself and doing things for yourself to make YOU happy then friends will fall into your lap. I hope ive helped.
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