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writes:There's a girl in a few of my classes who I've liked for a few months now. We talk occasionally (class) and have had a couple good 30+ min one-on-one conversions (field trip/class) Also it may just be me but a few times we have met eyes and she looked away slightly embarrassed. Anyway I asked this girl to prom in-between classes, and she turned bright red but unfortunately said she was 'sorry but was already going with a friend from another school'. I immediately said 'Ok, thanks anyway' and walked quickly to my next class.Now I'm wondering if I should've just asked her out on a date after asking her to prom. The way she said she was going with a friend made it seem like she was going with a 'girl' friend not a 'guy' friend not to mention from what I have seen she is pretty reserved, and I have heard she doesn't really talk about guys too much. So now (1 full day later) I was thinking of asking if it was her BF she was going with or something like that next week. Problem is I was thinking if you were asked to prom and had already promised to go with someone else, would you let the person who asked you know that although you can't go to the prom with them that you were interested in maybe a date or something? We have not talked since, but as it was only one day its not unusual. Keep in mind she is shy, but maybe my quick exit didn't give her a chance to say 'but maybe you want to go out sometime' and now is too shy to bring it up/ask. Also she just may not want to go out with me. I really have no clueI really don't want to be a pest and keep asking her about it, but I don't want to just give up if there is still a chance.Any ideas on what I should do or what you would do in her situation? Thanks for any help
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Yeah, asking someone to prom as a first date is awkward, and she probably did set it up with a friend to take the awkwardness out of it.
Sure you can ask her out, but find out what she likes first before you ask, so instead of the old "hey, wanna go out sometime?", followed by the awkward stare, you can plan something you know will get her interest and ask her to a very specific date. She'll be impressed with your attentiveness to her interests, and excited about the destination you've got planned.
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reader, goowes +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Never give up if there is a chance!! Go for it and have your rejection management plan solid. Awesome attitude.
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