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writes:I recently got into a friends with benefits relationship with a guy I work with (it began in May). However, I am definitely at the place where I just kind of want to end things. It started off with him kind of being distant but of course being just the right amount of interested. Then after we slept together, of course things changed where I wouldn't here from him and stuff like that unless I texed. Toward the beginning of the summer things changed a bit. He started calling and telling me about all of his life things going on, like about family things and a recent break-up with an ex he still isn't over. I don't doubt that these feelings and disclosures were genuine, because let's be honest you can tell when someone is gaming you or really sincerely going through some things. There were times he would cry or express other emotions while he talked about it and asked for my advice. At first I always was trying to get up with him to hang out, finding random ways to get over there with him. Most of them time we didn't even sleep together. I eventually stopped because I just felt like he wasn't that interested, both in me or the sex. Plus, I'm pretty sure I wasn't his only FWB. Recently though, he has started texting me and calling me yes to talk about his issues but also to kind of tell me updates on how something in his day went, to share good news, or that type of thing. He texts me early in the morning and asks me to come hang with him, but its never us having sex, just hanging out and laughing or what not. We even stopped sleeping in the bed together. He keeps saying things like, i'm a keeper for him, i'm alright with him no matter what anyone else says, and i'm like for real his girl, his homie like none other. At first I helped him alot when he was going through some financial difficulty (loaning him money yes which he surprisingly did pay back promptly and that type of thing), but now when I have offered to help he's like he's okay. I told him before that I didn't want to have sex anymore because eventually I felt I would get hurt. He said he respected that decision and understood my point of view, but then initiated sex and we ended up back at it again. I still kind of feel like its not even a sex thing so much anymore. But from there I honestly don't know what to think. I kinda feel like he is going to go back to how he was from the beginning, just really distant and so on, but I'm not sure. I just know I don't want to get hurt and need to kind of get out before things get really complicated, especially since we are about to head back to work. Any advice or insight would be really great :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Sounds to me like he has fallen for you. And is actually looking at the future not just a quick piece of ass.
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