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writes:I met my bf in college and he seemed like a very nice guy. We started talking a lot and we really liked each other. He asked me to be his gf and i said yes. But soon after i got a call from this girl telling me that he was married and that he has a son with her. when i confronted him about it he told me he had been seperated from her and that he does have a son with her so i forgave him for not telling me he had a son but as the relationship progressed he soon came clean that he had been married to her but was getting a divorce way before he met me and again i forgave him but then time passes again and he told me that when i met him he was still with his wife and as soon as he started talking to me that he left her right away because he had a feeling that he was going to be with me forever and that he really loves me and that he didnt love his wife and was just with her for his son. I know that he did leave her because i met his parents after he told me all of this and they told me he had nothing to do with her. I need help i dont know what to do.. Does he really want to be with me or is he playing me? does it make me a homewrecker when i knew nothing about his wife? Is it smart for me to still be with him after all the lies?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 He's not divorced yet, so technically u are dating a married man..and this my dear is a red flag...and him not being honest with you upfront is another red flag...and he is still not divorced from her and you dont know when he's getting a divorce, another red flag..three strikes your out..The cons outweigh the pros here
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Sorry hun, you are the homewrecker And he is just a born liar. Why do you just accept his lies. Is this what you want in your life. He was cheating with you on his wife. Only a matter of time before he cheats on you too...
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reader, Jesc +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I would have to agree with the people below me.
He started his friendship/relationship with you on a lie.
You are not a homewrecker in any way. You really have no idea what is truth here. In my humble opinion he is lying to you, and his " soon to be ex-wife" There is to much drama following behind this boy. Even if his parents say something. They don't know what is going on in his head either do you.
I believe it is best to drop him before anything else happens.
You are still young and can find someone else who will start a relationship even a friendship on truth. I would rather that than lies.
I hope the best for you.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (4 August 2010):
 So while he started dating you, he was still living with his wife. And even now, he's still not divorced yet. And he's been lying to you from the beginning and even when he comes clean, that's still a lie too.
You can do better. Could you ever trust this cheating pathological liar? Picture even if you married him and bore him a child... how could you ever trust that he wouldn't then be dating some new girl and telling her that you don't exist?
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reader, Unsure07 +, writes (3 August 2010):
Its obvious here that he has a problem with telling the truth. Even if he didnt tell you he was with his wife, why wouldn't he mention his son?
That sounds like someone hiding something and plays a lot of games. Believe me, if he's lying to you then he's definitely lying to her. If you're for it then do it, but if you would like to be with someone that doesn't have issues with being upfront then I suggest you go the other way.
He's playing games with you and he's playing games with his wife. Remember that she's not going anywhere...she's his "soon to be ex" wife and the mother of his child. I don't know about you but that sounds like a big case of baby mama drama. Take it from me the baby mama drama is not worth it. Please walk away!
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