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writes:Ok so here's my problem...me and my best friend have been best friends for eight years now and we've never had a fall out. then this gy got involved and it nearly split us up but we made it through it and we fell out with this guy. we bitched about him behind and our back and said horrible things about him and then me and my friend fell out due to something totally different and stupid - it wasnt even an argument and this fall out lasted four months. she turned all our old friends against me and i made new friends and what annoyed me most is that she made up with this 'guy' that she said she hated yet he wouldnt make up with me and it was because of her we fell out with this guy. ITS SO ANNOYING!! Anyway four months on, in year 10 we were in practically all the same lessons and after a few weeks she asked to be my friend and like the softie i am, i said yes. We gradually became friends again and she asked if i wanted to go with her at dinner and basically i abandoned all my other friends for her and remade friends with my old friends and now 6 months on.. me, my best friend and these other two girls - Girl A and Girl Bare like a foursome, we are bmas but my best friend is particually good friends with girl A and me girl B are always left out. She always treats me like a second choice, always takes things out on me if shes annoyed yet she treats the other girl like a godess. my and girl B stick together but ino she likes the other two girls better even though my best friend and Girl A dont like her. Im sick of being left out and feeling jealous of them too but i cant fall out with them because i cant go back to my old friends as i abandoned them and ill have no one. I want my best friend to be MY best friend like we used to be.She is currently on the fone to girl A and i have a strong feeling they're discussing me.HELP ME!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?i cant go back to my old friendsi dont want to fall out with thembut if i say something she'll fall out with me because shes like that: stubborn and unreasonable and everyone will side with her because everyne likes her more than me and she has dozens more friends than i do.Help me!!!
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reader, Mrs. Mom  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 You don't have to fall out with them, but you're not in a good situation. I suggest you try to make some new friends, while continuing to remain on good terms with these girls. I'd just spend less and less time with them as time goes on.
There are a few lessons in here.
Don't talk nasty behind other people's backs, because it tends to come around in a bad way.
Don't abandon old friends for new friends. It's good to make new friends, but don't cut off ties. People don't like being treated that way, as you've found out, and it's no good treating people as if they're your playthings.
Good luck.
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