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writes:So, there's this girl that I really like. Last night we spent over 5 hours Skyping and playing truth or dare over Skype (It got pretty hot) and, by the time it was done, we had both seen each other PARTIALLY naked. But she is just SUCH a sweet person and so beautiful and there's just SO many reasons why I like her. The problem is.. I'm a Christian with a PRETTY GOOD reputation at my church (as in, I know EVERYONE) and I am very close with my pastor. He is VERY strict on not dating AT ALL until we're in high school. I think he would be VERY disappointed in me if I started dating this girl (who isn't a Christian, by the way).. What do I do? Please help.. This is all so confusing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011): I can't say I know the answer to the question about whether you'd connect on a deeper level with another Christian, or if religion makes no difference relating to connection. If you'd like, that'd be a great question to submit, though. I'm sure lots of people would weigh in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnother thing is that she isn't a Christian.. My pastor says that if you date someone who isn't Christian than you won't be able to connect on a deeper level.. Do you think that is true?
P.S. We weren't TECHNICALLY "stripping," but I felt so bad afterwards because it is SO not like me usually..
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 August 2011):
 Yes, I have to agree with jmc930. Stripping on Skype is the much bigger no-no. That kind of thing is probably exactly what your pastor is worried about.
If you feel strongly about this girl, and your parents approve, then absolutely you should start dating her and see where this budding romance takes you. But, you should probably slow wayyyy down. The reason your pastor wants you to wait until high school is so that you won't grow up too fast, or get involved with things too "adult".
Your pastor does not run your life. You do. He is offering guidance, but not hard and fast rules. Good luck, sweet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): I think you would most disappoint your pastor by stripping on Skype with a girl than you would by dating a girl before you start high school.
I think you should go for dating this girl. Your pastor doesn't dictate your life, but your morals as a Christian should.
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