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writes:I have been dating someone for 7 weeks, we are both 27 and have been sleeping together for 4 weeks. (it was a bit soon i know) We both work 10 hour days, 5 days per week. My question is, he seems too casual and i wonder if its a case of "he's just not into me". We dont see each other often, maybe 2 evenings per week. He always stays with me all the next day after sleeping over. Last weekend i stayed with him on friday night and all day saturday. When we were cuddled up on the couch he asked what i was doing that night (saturday) i said i wasnt sure, and I asked what he was doing. He said "oh i have some friends i have to catch up with for a drink". Was it strange that he didnt invite me?? i mentioned this to him a few hours later and he said "oh no, its with my old work friends and its not something you would invite your girlfriend to". Tonight we had dinner (wednesday night) we had a great time, he dropped me home and said "i cant see you tomorrow night because i have to work late but maybe friday"... is this strange that he would say "maybe" friday? Or am i just being too paranoid?He has always been a bit laid back :( It really upset me about 2 weeks ago and i asked him if we were together or are we just "casual intimate friends" (FWB) he said "no, we are together". I asked him what he would say if someone asked him who i was and he said "i would say that this is the girl i'm seeing and she is my girlfriend". What do you think?? do i just need to chill or should i be cautious? One of my close friends said that he didnt actually commit to seeing me on friday night in case he gets a better offer! Also, we dont talk much during the day but he usually sends me a good night text each evening. (dont know if this counts or not!) I have also been out with him and his friends so im not a secret. The problem is that i feel im getting attached already and dont want to continue sleeping with him if he is "just not that into me". Thanks everyone!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your replies!! I will take your advice and relax, thanks again :) x
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (4 February 2011):
I think you need to relax and enjoy the ride. What makes you think he's not that into you? Or that this isn't going anywhere?
Because what I see is:
- he's already called you his girlfriend
- he sees you regularly (2 nights a week and then the whole day after each night is quite a bit, especially as both of you are very busy with work)
- he contacts you everyday, at least by text to say good night
- you've already met his friends, so you're not a secret
And all this is after you've only been seeing each other for 7 weeks. I think everything is going fine. Don't overanalyze it until you stop enjoying yourself. The 2 of you are having a good time, and he doesn't seem to be against having a girlfriend or relationship. Just let things run their course, and enjoy yourself.
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reader, rachel aniston  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 dont be tensed see if he ignores you more than this in future than its a thing you must clear with him ,otherwise it can be just nothing.
maybe he was really there with his old friends busy with boys like talk where they dont prefer to take girls,may be he is having fun with his old friend doing the things they used to do earlier and he didnt wanted to create a sticky relationship with you like that of a fevicol.he might be stressed out at the moment and many other things are possible so you dont need to be worried now take a long breathe and just relax ,
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