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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been feeling lost since I broke up with my boyfriend at the end of last year. Don't get me wrong, I'm so glad I split up with him - he was emotionally abusive etc for 3 years. But when we were together, he half had me convinced we'd get married soon and he made all the decisions, like his career was more important than mine. Although I didn't like it, I guess I got used to things being that way and now I'm not quite sure what to do with myself. I also moved to a new city for my studies a few months after the breakup. Apart from my brother who also lives here, there's nobody who really knows me, if you know what I mean...back home I had a group of friends who I'd known for over 6 years. I'm usually a fairly shy person with people I don't know and I think I come across as particularly aloof to people I meet now because I have so much baggage at the moment, I find it hard to relate to new people. I also think I'm craving male attention, just to feel reassured that I didn't blow my one chance with a guy who liked me (that's what my ex spent at least a year consciously trying to make me believe. On one level I know it's crazy, but at the same time, he was pretty convincing). So now when a guy doesn't call me or something, I can't stop thinking and worrying about it. Anyway, I know that was pretty rambling but I'd appreciate any insight you might have on any of it. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): I went through a bad break up with my ex who i was with for four years he made me feel pathetic and not good enough ive lost my confidence over him and it makes me so angry that men have so much effect on women we should be so much stronger than this.i also moved to a new city to start university started a new life without my ex and ive had the best year of my life because he wasent there.The main thing you need to do is make friends you should forget about men you sound like you need to get your confidence back and actually realise its nots bad being single its actually fun!Are you happy how you are now if not this is the time to change things.Buy new clothes ,change your hair,make yourself feel gorgeous!I think best way to make friends is through school or work, going out etcDont look for men they come to you, the best of them come when you least expect it.
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